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Just met my b dad for the second time. It has been 7 years since the first time. We live in different countries so..
It was very interesting. I certainly know where I get some of my personal traits from. My mind set and attitude. My life has changed so much over the past 7 years. In the first meeting I wasn't sure about myself or him. Now I have very formed opinions about things. To cut a long story short, I'm glad I was raised by the people who raised me, even if their marriage was a failure. I think about where I am in life now, how much I have acheived and how lucky I am to have GOOD people in my life. When I imagine myself as being raised by my bio parents, I see a very different person. A person who would have had much less opportunity in life, a person who would've been uninspired.
So overall, it was uneasy but I'm glad I went for the visit. I can now better identify the negatives in me that I must focus on to better myself. For me it's now about being a better person. A sincere, generous and caring person. I need to stop talking so much and listen more. Be a team player and less selfish. Be friendly. Get on with life and acheive some goals.
:loveyou: Wish me luck:loveyou:
Chris,
What a great attitude and outlook on your reunion. You are taking the right message from the experience and using the information to continue to improve yourself.
I have done the same. I see the traits in myself ( good and bad ) from meeting my bios and it really magnifies what needs fixing. That is my work as well.
So as a fellow adoptee in reunion, I say Go Chris! I totally understand and share your outlook and realizations.
Kim
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