she is 18 today

I would say it would be okay to go through the sites. Does she know she was adopted? Do you know if her mother has contacted her? Not that the answers would really make a difference in how you reach out to her... I don't think it really matters especially to younger people whether it's phone, letters, text , email, etc. It's all "talking" Benefit of goeing through MySpace; Facebook, etc is that it goes directly to her. And she's 18 now so I say go for it! [BTW - i sent my site addresses to my daughter's parents and also sent her bdad's page. He doesn't know cause we haven't spoken but three or four times in 11 years]

i hope she allready knows they said they would tell her when she was old enough,her birthmom has not had any contact with her either. thanks for your reply

Hey there, Facebook and Myspace seem to be popular with the "approaching 20 and the 20's" set. Maybe that would be a way to go. Though you are going to have to weigh it out whether or not she knows. It could be her parents didn't tell her. Perhaps going on to the adoptee site on this forum and getting their advice on how to approach this might be valuable for you too. It never hurts to have a few opinions to think over, right? I wish you peace in whatever you decide. Kindest regards,

I contacted my bdaughter through myspace. It was one of the best ways. She knew she was adopted and was very excitied that i was her bmom and that I found her. I say go for it!!!!

Congratulations. I hope it goes well for you.

well i did it i sent message to her myspace,schools out and i said now or never,but kept it generic in form,and told her when she was ready then so was i,ill keep you all posted if i get reply from her

Hey There! Thinking of you and sending support. :-) Janey

I am thinking and praying good thoughts for you and your daughter today. I look forward to hearing how this goes for both of you. I am so happy to have both my bmom and my bdad in my life. Best wishes!!

thanks ,and i have gotten no reply from her yet .my myspace says my message is still unread by her so who knows maybe ill send a message to her on facebook next

1hurtingbdad, Any updates yet??? I feel your pain bro. Im just hoping that the attorney that i am in contact with, will be allowed to give me his name. All i have is what i was told by my cousin what might be his name, im not sure other then asking for it (which i did today, keep your fingers crossed for me) if it would be something i could find out on my own. Im hoping you guys got in touch and it is working out okay. I have so many questions and with mine coming up on his 18th bday, i find it hard to sleep some days. Jay

well,i sent message to her facebook and it was her! and she had been searching for us since she was 12,but it turns out that she didnt have the fairy tale life she was supposed to have,her parents divorced when she was 9, and she had to call police on her parents several times for them fighting,and then she said she was molested. we could have provided more for her then what she ended up having,and i tell you im pissed off about it and cant wait till i get to meet her parents again.apparently there whole life story was a lie.just goes to show you that money can get you whatever you want AT THE TIME! but im trying to get to know my daughter now and she is 5 months pregnate and living with her grandparents again, they basically raised her for many years, i trully want to meet them and thank them for some form of normal in her life, she looks exactly like i thought she would look like beautifull! we live about 3 hours from each other and are planning to meet again in another month . well thats pretty much my story, thanks to all for the encourangment in early stages of searching for her.and good luck on all your own searches and reunions

Congrats!!!!!!!! Although the pain of the past will always be there, look at what the future can hold for you and her!!!! While everyone here has made mistakes, the best thing to look forward too is getting to know her, and letting her lean her head on your shoulder, and finally put your heart at peace. Dont you find it amazing she was only 3 hours from you??? I know your anger about her life will always be there, but be supportive for her.