Mgm trying to adopt grandson

I am so thrilled to have found this website! I have so many questions and it appears that there are so many people here who have been through this experience enough to give me some answers! :clap: I fought for months to get my grandson taken away from my daughter and the childs father. My daughter used drugs the entire time she was pregnant and was abused physically by her boyfriend the entire time as well. She ended up having the baby 2 months premature, at which time both the baby and my daughter tested positive for meth. CPS first got involved then but closed the case because they felt that my daughter had learned her lesson and that she had a supportive family who could watch over her and the baby and make sure he was safe. How do you tell your 26 yr old daughter that they cannot leave and take the baby? That's another story...anyway immediately once CPS closed the case she began using again and was being abused again. I called the police and CPS over 20 times in a 6 month span as my daughter was driving under the influence with the child, leaving him with drug addicts who had their own children taken away, was being abused and had physical bruises to prove it, however it took CPS 6 months before they did anything. Once I finally got someone to listen to me they immediately took the child from my daughter and placed him with me. My daughter and her boyfriend are failing their services that CPS has offered and they both frequently miss their visits with the baby. They both are tired of dealing with CPS and although they both want to call themselves parents, neither of them really want the responsibility of being a parent. Neither of them have a stable place to stay or jobs. Just recently they both went down to CPS and told them that they want to relinquish their rights so that I can adopt the child. We go to court Sept 10, 2009 for their 6 month hearing in which CPS will make their recommendation. CPS is very aware that we want to adopt my grandson and as far as I know, that will be their recommendation at the hearing. My questions are this: 1. What can I expect at this hearing? I was told that they will actually set another hearing for 4 months out...not sure what this will be for. 2. What is involved in a home study? What types of things would cause a family to fail a home study? My husband (my daughters step father) and I have been married 5 years, and have our own home, we're financially stable, neither of us have a criminal background, however my husband had an accusation when he was 16 yrs old against his 10 yr old step brother. Nobody ever said anything about it back then, an office talked to him once, but CPS never was involved. However 16 yrs later during this issue with my grandson we found out that CPS had filed a report which showed up on the child abuse index. My husband had to leave the home while they investigated this at the beginning so that I could keep my grandson in our home for 2 weeks. They found the person who made the accusation years ago in another city and he retracted his statement. We received a letter from CPS stating that they felt that it was probable that it was an unfounded accusation and that they have notified the Department of Justice to remove the accusation. There was some recreational drug use for both my husband and I as young adults (10 years ago for him, marijuana, and 23 years ago for me, marijuana and meth), however neither of us have used since and have never been in trouble with the law for it. We have both moved on to have great careers and lives. 3. How long does the entire process take? 4. After the adoption, if my daughter and her boyfriend step up to the plate and get their act together, would it be appropriate to allow them to be part of his life? I know that they will probably ask this in the home study. I just want them to know that no matter what I will never place my grandson in harm and will never allow visits while they were under the influence or at any time that I felt uneasy. I have worked much too hard to keep this child in a safe environment and my daughter and her bf know my stance on this as well. 4. Other than the parents changing their minds, what types of things could cause the adoption to fail? We love this child so much and have bonded with him. We have been part of his life even before he was born, and have had him solely for the past 9 months. I would be devastated if my daughter and her bf voluntarily relinquished their rights only to have my grandson taken from us and placed elsewhere. I am young (43, hubby is 32) and again, have the energy and means to provide a wonderful life for our grandson. Not only have we bonded with him, but he has bonded with us. We are all this child knows. Even though he sees both parents, I truly believe that he looks to my husband and I as his caregivers, although I never have called myself his mommy, since our initial goal was to reunify him with his parents. Any advice and comments are truly appreciated! Again, I feel so grateful to have found this wonderful site! :thanks: