Shotgun Adoption Article

Isn't it just amazing how this whole adoption thing works even in this day and time of "civilized humans"??? This article just made me ill. I know it's the truth though. I know it because I lived it and I know a lot of others of us lived it here. I wish it wasn't such a big thing in the world to steal babies for profit. It's SICKENING!!! Rylee

Wow Elaine, Thanks for posting this. The article really hit home for me and I am angry. I am angry this is still allowed to occur. I'm angry that these types of agencies are making a profit in the name of "god" by trafficking children into the the arms of people they find more worthy: Christian, married and willing to spend tens of thousands for a baby. You got my blood boiling on a Saturday morning!

paigeturner -- oh no, sorry to get you upset... I had to ready a few paragraphs, close it out and then come back later to finish it. It is soooo sad that these practices still go on, but they do. And, people are making money from it, too. Very, very sad.

Human trafficing is wrong! I just don't understand how in this day and age when things are supposed to be civilized and better that these kinds of places still exist. As pageturner said it really hits home for sure. It's just ridiculous! Stone age mentality! :hissy: :hissy: :hissy: And the worst part as was stated is they do it in the name of GOD! No wonder so many people have problems with the idea of God being a loving wonderful God. I know I've had my moments in life a LOT of moments blaming God for the adoption. I was told all kinds of crap. Things like my baby was not meant for me but meant for "worthy" families who couldn't have children and wanted a family. I was even told that the family my daughter was going to didn't have any children. That they had wanted a little girl so bad that they cried when she was placed in their arms. And a bunch of other crap. Then when I meet my daughter I find out she had 2 older brothers when she was adopted! It was all for the money and the woman who handled the adoption were friends of that family so my daughter was placed with crazy people for MONEY! :hissy: :hissy: :hissy: However, I'm not going to blame God anymore. God will punish those people. He'll punish all of those of us hurt by the lies and deceit. They won't get away with it. I hope not anyway. But I have stopped blaming God for taking my baby from me. He didn't do it. The greedy, no good for nothing, lying, back stabbing, money grabbing agency and all those involved in that adoption were to blame. But this article definitely made me sick and mad and feeling like screaming and throwing something at someone. I'm glad you posted it it though. If MORE adoptive parents saw that article and read what is STILL going on and see that things HAVEN'T changed all that much those who are truly wanting a family and are the kinds of people we were promised our children would be raised by, won't let anymore of these girls down by broken promises and things that cause them horrific pain. They'll keep promises and do what's right. But who knows. The want/need for a family seems to outweigh anything else with some adopitve parents and they will probably think it's all to make them feel "guilty" for wanting a family rather than what it really is about. But who knows. Rylee

Georgia Tann has returned from the grave and she's brought all the ugliness back with her. Human beings trampling on the rights of the less fortunate/frightened/naive and/or desparate? Huh. Who would've thunk it.

We all read on here time and time again how hopeful adoptive parents are scammed by expectant mothers. We read how their emotions are played with and how they lose thousands of dollars that they pay out in support. Ive been thinking a lot lately about scamming. IҒve been thinking how expectant parents are scammed not just by organizations like the ones mentioned in this article but by the multi-billion dollar adoption business as a whole. Its these same groups that fight comprehensive sex education in the schools and who oppose tax payer funded birth control programs under the guise of abstinence only education. I ask myself why? The answer is simple and sinister; these businesses need supply. So called open adoption has radically changed the public face of adoption since the days when I relinquished my son. ItҒs wrapped up in pretty bows with ads showing the glowing smiling face of an expectant mother and hopeful adoptive parents scrambling to write their dear birthmotherӔ letters outlining how theyre the right family to give this baby a ғbetter life. These crisis pregnancy organizations dangle the carrot of ԓhelp and some still work to move expectant mothers away from their natural support systems and into ԓadoption friendly states and programs designed to systematically strip her of the self-worth and self confidence it takes to make the step to parent. Women are being told about the beauty of open adoption, but they arenԒt told that they can be shut out on a whim. My younger sisters tasked with blazing the trail of this new paradigm agonize over every gesture, email, phone call and visit worrying that one wrong step will result in the slamming of a door. That this still goes on today makes me want to cry. As the article states for many first parents the brainwashing and damage done by these types of organizations takes decades to overcome. Up until recently I would have looked someone straight in the eye and without batting a lash I would have stated that relinquishing my son enabled him to have a better life than what I could provide. Yet, less than two short years later I was married, had purchased my first home and had given birth to my oldest daughter. My children had awesome childhoods and have grown into successful and ambitious women. Why would my son have been any different? I think about what was taken from him. He was stripped of his heritage, his history, his medical background and his biological roots. I hope that in the trade-off he did find an amazing family that encouraged his interests, his education and helped him grow into a great man, because I know that had a single person who helpedӔ me during the dark days of my pregnancy had even once encouraged me to parent, I would have raised him to be a great man. That organizations and individuals continue to profit over the placement of children is criminal in my opinion. Hopeful adoptive parents shell out tens of thousands of dollars to adopt an infant in this country. That agencies are allowed to price gouge for a healthy, Caucasian infant is sickening. Until people refuse to open their wallets in the quest for a child nothing will ever change. There are very powerful organizations lobbying Congress today to extend or make permanent the adoption tax credit; at the same time, social programs designed to help those in need are being cut and I fear the result will be even more families forced by economics to relinquish a child. Its time for me to start putting my money, my time and political expertise where my mouth is. It is time for me to step out of the basement and out of hiding and work for reforms. IҒm terrified but my anger for the women still being scammed by these powerful businesses will help me move forward. How many of you from all sides of the triad are willing to help? Thanks for listening.

I'd be willing to help. What can I do? Rylee

The Baby Scoop Era Research Initiative may know of way for moms to help. [url=http://www.babyscoopera.com/join/index.html]The Baby Scoop Era Research Initiative[/url] Even though I'm an adoptee and not a nmom, they have been so welcoming and warm. They may have more ideas, too...

I was recently reunited(I guess that's what you call it) with my adult son and was forced to face all of the grief and rage that I had stuffed for 24 years. In my quest to figure out how I lost my son, asking myself how they got my baby that I wanted so desperately to keep and parent I have found that I am not alone. I never knew other women were coerced, tricked and lied to also. I thought I was the only one! I thought women that relinquished their babies didn't want them. Wow was I wrong! I didn't know infant adoption was a money making business, I didn't know lobby groups such as the National council for Adoption existed to push "adoption is a wonderful thing" propaganda into the churches, schools and even doctors offices. Any place where an unwed mother might be. They have spent billions on the adoption not abortion campaign They want to take credit for saving my son's life, he was not going to be aborted, he was unplanned but not unwanted. My point being, now I know and I'm angry! I want everyone to know, I want Borrack Obama to know what is REALLY going on in this country! We have to band together and stop this madness. Thousands of angry mamas can be heard! I want thousands of us to stand in front of the maternity homes(yes, they still exist) and adoption agencies and keep those mothers and babies together! They have kept us silent for too long!