Match Meeting

:cheer: hi we are scheduled for a match meeting and we are meeting the child also the same day? Does that mean that we are selected as a guarantee placement for this child just wondering if anyone has info please share thank you

:grr: Well we have another match meeting scheduled again 3rd one why is it so hard to keep a meeting? cancelled 1 day before scheduled day.:mad: Hopefully this will be it scheduled this month please pray this will be the day we meet i am so frustrated but i won't give up.:woohoo: So what happens during a match meeting? Anyone know.

Did you have your match meeting? Sending up a prayer for you in this rollercoaster of a ride called adoption! We are a family in WI, matched with 3 siblings in Miami, waiting for ICPC paperwork to go through. Here's what happened with our situation. We were connected with the adoption recruiter through Adopt America Network (whom I HIGHLY RECOMMEND!!!) a couple of days before Thanksgiving 2009, and talked to the recruiter for information. After we shared info. and she reviewed our homestudy and profile, spoke with our worker in WI, etc., we were asked to come down to meet with caseworkers and meet the kids on Dec. 11, 2009. We had a "disclosure" meeting, where we met with caseworkers, recruiter, therapist via phone, and got to ask any/all questions we had. Then, we got to meet our kiddos! After spending an evening, and then the next full day, we were asked if we would like to commit to the adoption, if we felt it was a match. We whole heartedly said yes, and we are now waiting on ICPC. Not sure if this is the "norm," or if there even is a "norm" in adoption. We were the only family being considered for these kiddos. Just ask lots of questions; our recruiter was wonderful and answered everything we asked. We are so excited to have them join our family! We also have 3 kiddos at home (one adopted, two bio) and will have a busy house with 6 kids between the ages of 4-9; three boys and three girls. We tease that we will be the Rainbow Brady Bunch! ha-ha! Please keep me updated on your progress! Nice to have someone to walk with! :)

:banana: yes we did it was great everything went well we have another one this month. i hope she will be placed soon after this one. thankyou for responding to my post lets keep in touch.

:mad: :mad: :mad: Well 19 hours before scheduled meeting with child and our children was suppose to meet .the foster mother decides to adopt child so we are out of the picture my children are so sad about this. They was really looking forward to meet their new sister and what is really sad is the foster parents was moving back to Haiti and they asked if they could take child to that country and they said no so they had know intentions to adopt her but now since the earthquake they decide now to stay and adopt child is that fair to us i think not is there anything i can do about this? or can she do this? I am so frustrated with this adoption process i feel like giving up but i know that children need a home.

Oh my, I'm so sorry Strawberri, the wait, the unknown, the unexpected........these are the labor pains of adoption. I just don't understand why people...foster parents, and family members, etc. wait until the 11th hour to declare their intentions. Seems to me those plans should have been made prior to TPR, or at least prior to CW looking for other families to adopt.

Oh, I am so sorry. We had the same thing happen. The day before the staffing, of which we were the only and "chosen" family, the foster mom decided to adopt, after 2 years of saying no, she couldn't adopt 4 children. It is so heart breaking. Our kids at home are very guarded with their hearts now as we've had things like this happen a few times; they still don't totally trust that the kids we are matched with, and waiting for ICPC on so they can come home, will actually be "ours." Saying a prayer for you.

I am so heartbroken, i really thought she was going to be placed with us but i guess not. I don't know what to do i have inquired about so many children and this is the closest we came to placement we are even open to all nationalities,ages birth- 10, disabilities and homestudy approved to have 3 three children placed in our home i don't know what could be the problem with the workers when we inquire about children i am so frustrated with this, i really feel like tis might not be what i am suppose to be doing. I don't know, keep us in your prays thank you

I am so sorry. I know the heart ache you are experiencing. But hang on, don't give up. God has a plan for you and the children that are meant to be yours. He is growing you and them until His timing is perfect. I've gone through your journey, and through many heart breaks of lost children. But now that we are matched with our kiddos, I know they are the ones that were meant for us. God had other plans for us with the kids that we weren't matched with; we were prayer warriors in these kids lives at a time that they needed someone to intervene. We were able to love them with an intensity that others didn't have, and therefor pray for them in a way that others couldn't. My neighbors have also gone through similar struggles, and have wanted to give up also. I think it's part of this roller coaster called adoption. They are now facing a harder struggle; they are being considered (as the only family) for 4 different groups of kids. It is heartbreaking like I never want to experience. How do you say no?? Hold on; trust God; keep fighting for your kids... Again, I am so sorry. Lots of hugs. :grouphug:

Hi have they been placed yet we are still waiting please pray our time will come soon thank you happy 4th!!!!!!!!!!