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Hello, i am adopted since birth. i found out when i was 8 years old. my mother told me that i wasnt hers. ever since then my life has been empty. if you can help me please pm me. i am ready. i have gone to givenright.com and paid this women alot of $200 and she said i found her and then told me it wasnt her. i never heard from her again. please if some one reads this i want to help others find there parents and i want to know why. thanks
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I am so sorry your mother told you in that way. You were hers even though she didn't give birth to you. (I guess I'm saying it's something I would never want my birthson or any adoptee to be told!) No wonder your life feels empty. How much information do you have? Have you registered on any sites (like the one you can find if you click on unite at the top of this page)? I found my birthson because he had registered here.
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Hi, Your plea really gave a tug at my heart strings. Have you gone on the reunion boards and put in all the information that you do have? Whatever you do know, would possibly match with someone who is searching for you. It would also helo if you could give out some sort of identifying information whenever you post on here.
For instance how old are you? Or at least whet is your approximate birthdate? Male of female? etc.
I am searching for my son Timothy b. 2/09/1974 in IL who was relinquished on 2/19/1974. I think having this info out there increases my chances of finding him somehow and gives me hope. Every little bit counts as they say.
I wish you were mine, so that I could hug you and tell you everything I can.
Good luck.
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'Rekoneyez'... (good name) I found my mother from looking in a school yearbook in the year I believed that she graduated from high school. By the time I did that, I had already had two children of my own and I one day realised that I recognised them in a school photo in one flash second even from a distance. I figured that I could recognise my mother too if I saw her young, and BINGO.. it worked. I knew she had been living in my city when she was young, so I that's what I did, I went to the high schools on the 30th reunion and started looking. Her face stood out just as much as my daughter's stood out to me. After all, we are the ones who look at faces since we are ten years old looking for that one face in the crowd that looks like us. After I had my kids I knew more what features to look for better. It turned out that she looked like my youngest daughter and some of my characteristics too such as being tall. It was a blurry picture and BAM.. I knew it was her still.
1) NEVER pay to search. 2) go to website "G's Adoption Registry" and enter ALL the info you have in their form 3) keep posting on their message board so that the search angels get to work--they are free, by the way, and enthusiastic and in my case fast! Make sure each post has "ISO Birthmother and date and place of birth" in the heading.
I wish you the best of luck! It worked for me. It all depends on whether the other person has put her information out there!
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We are having wonderful conversations, have alot in common, discovering lots of traits we both have. He has seen how much he looks like my other sons and me and likes that.
I don't see that meeting face to face is too far off, and he's already decided he wants a relationship with us. We are all excited, but know it's a long road.
If you take it slow, are honest, are not having unreasonable expectations and can deal with any regret and differences, it can be joyful for anyone.
If the other person is not at all who you expected, so what, you can't change them. Try to enhance each others lives instead of look for reason not to like them. Otherwise why even bother looking. You have to really want this. Good Luck everyone!!:cheer: