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well...i didn't put two and two together...but others have...and this could get ugly.
kids4god wants to disrupt this child: [url]http://forums.adoption.com/disruption-support/366836-help-needed-possible-disruption.html[/url]
but adopt this one: [url]http://forums.adoption.com/failed-contested-adoption/366838-anyone-failed-match-went-adoption-end.html[/url]
people have called her out on the adoption thread. now that i look at it, she posted her disruption thread, and then 30 minutes later was posting her adoption thread. is this for real? either way.....i think it is one to watch.
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So she does have the 4 girls and 2 sons as she said. ( based on the pic anyway - the oldest boy in there is her son in law) yet on her myspace she only names one of the sons.Hmm...still...I'm wondering where this is all going to go and what she is really about. Nice detective digging!!!! LOL!
on her my space, she only names the older son...i'd guess he's five- noah, but doesn't name isaiah...who i assume is now the 3 year old she doesn't want. although there are photos of him in her album. people really should be careful about what they post online. i now know where her daughters go to school, where they shop, the town they live in, what all their children look like and their names, and where her husband works/where they go to church. all from her user name here.really? sadly...i think she is sincerely wanting to disrupt one and take in another. i think she sincerely thinks she is doing the right thing. if she seriously is only wanting to disrupt because his family interferes with bonding with him......kind of makes you want to drive to cosby, tn and adopt isaiah, doesn't it? poor kid. :(p.s. i mentioned moving as a possiblity to her to put some distance between her 3 year old's first family and herself and she said she could not afford it. but could she if she didn't adopt this new baby? crazy. i know i'm being judgemental.
Hmm...still...I'm wondering where this is all going to go and what she is really about.
yes. it has like 5000 people. i have never been there, but what i know about that area is that it is isolated.....like lots of little towns in tennessee....you have to drive through an hour of nothingness to get to a small place.....which i think makes a small place feel even smaller. lots of these places get like 1 or 2 big stores....and it is where EVERYone goes.
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Makes me sick.I mean, all of these excuses she's using (small community, contact with birth parents, etc) are all things she KNEW about before accepting the child in her home.Why, now, is it suddenly an issue? Something to do with the fact that there is suddenly a child who doesn't have these drawbacks?We do what we have to for our kids - if we don't then we aren't really being good parents. In my opinion, her reasoning is invalid, she isn't willing to make changes for one of her children - is it because he's adopted? Who knows. In this case, she shouldn't be allowed to adopt again, because she has proven she isn't doing things in the best interest of the child - and it wouldn't be in the childs best interest to be placed in a home where, if things get to difficult, the child then becomes disposable.This really tweaks me out - as a 'disposable kid' myself. I'm not sure what I would have done if my aparents had gone on and adopted another kid after me.
i'm floored. and if you have read any of my posts, you know i typically come to the defense of parents wanting to disrupt. i get it. i still think it should be reserved for when you absoultely have no control over the situation. this is not the case. there are SO many things they could change here. if one of her biological daughters was being harassed by someone, would they give her away? probably not. her dh is a pastor? PERFECT. this is the freakin' bible belt. there are more churches here than i've seen in my whole life. get a different job and MOVE. because you don't want to.....isn't a good excuse here.
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I think she needs to get over herself and her selfishness and do what is right by these kids. Don't disrupt - her reasons are nowhere good enough. Don't adopt another child, now if ever.She makes my stomach turn. Sorry, I have no sympathy for her - only Isaiah.
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Sorry. I'm so passionate about this because I have personal experience with it within my family.
My cousin was placed with us as an infant. She then went to an aunt and uncle on my dads' side. The day they went to court to finalize her adoption the judge gave her back to her mom (who was only 16). After only a few months she was sent to yet another home, where she lived until she aged out of the system at 18. When she was in her early 20's her mom was allowed to adopt not 1, but 4 boys. It just leaves a sour taste in my mouth.
I do completely understand that it would be hard for Isaiah either way, but I only know what I have seen first-hand. My cousin is so very bitter now that her mom didn't fight to keep her (or her bio-brother), but did go on to adopt 4 other children.
I'll step off my soapbox now. Thanks for letting me vent.