So what actually happens on the 18th b-day in an open adoption???

It doesn't sound like an open adoption. It sounds like a semi-open ie the first mother and the APs have contact information - is that right? If your son is turning 18 then you can contact him without going through his parents - have you found him on facebook? I'd drop him a message on facebook and stay you'd like to get to know him. But be prepared for him to no reply. I've been in reunion with my bdaughter since she was a young teen and it's been on and off for the last six years so good luck.

i guess your right. I was told that when he turns 18 he would get my name. However i dont have his adopted name, all i have is what i was told she named him when born.

Sounds like you are talking about a semi open adoption at the least, since in an open I would assume since there is open contact, nothing would change. I'm in a sem open adoption and I've wondered the same thing, since my daughter is almost 18 as well. I was going to talk to her mom about it since we have contact, but she beat me to it and mentioned that she has been thinking we should be introduced soon. I don't know if it has to do with her 18th birthday, the fact that she's graduating high school, the fact that almost four years things have progressed since our adoption was re-opened to contact, if she's been asking about me, who knows? Give me a couple of months and I'll let you know what happens ;) Do you have contact with your son's parents? Can you talk to them about it? If not, maybe it's best to wait until he turns 18 and contact him directly. Be prepared for anything tho, just because they turn 18, doesn't always mean they are ready. Keep us posted!

did you ever end up meeting your daughter? I am currently in a semi open adoption and I am the birth mother. On Saturday 5/1/10 I am having a visit with her and her family. I havent seen her since she was 4 months old! Let me know how it goes!

How has it been with the communications since he has turned 18? How has it been?

How do you locate your son you had to give up for adoption. He turned 18 on july 9th this year, I only know his adopted first and middle name and of corse his birthname.

Well it can't hurt to join the reunion registry, put as much information as you have on the profile, that way if he decides to look on it, he'll see you're looking as well.