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I was wondering if anyone had children after their adopted child? If so, how did those children react to the reunion?
My adopted child was my 2nd child. My oldest is his real brother and I also have 2 other children from my present marriage. My adoptee gets along great with his real brother and my youngest but my 3rd child does not like him at all. :(
I posted previously about how my reunion with my adopted child took a turn for the worse but it still breaks my heart that my 3rd child doesn't accept him. I know I can't expect him to and I do respect his opinion.
Any shared stories (good or bad) will be greatly appreciated. :thanks:
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I haven't gone through thr reunion issues, but I do have experience with bio sibs whom were raised together, not getting along. They did not get along as children and they have no relationship as adults. They have nothing in common and actually just don't like each other. I can see where sibs not raised together, no shared history, traditions, etc could even be more less likely to form and maintain a bond. Don't give up though, they may come around.
The link below is to a thread several years ago but is written by a kept child...may be good to read at least a couple of pages. [URL="http://forums.adoption.com/birth-family-support/330753-difficulty-accepting-newly-discovered-half-sister.html"]http://forums.adoption.com/birth-family-support/330753-difficulty-accepting-newly-discovered-half-sister.html[/URL] Kind regards,Dickons
My son, whom I relinquished, is 24.
His half sisters, whom I'm raising, are nearly 7 and nearly 5.
So far, they all seem thrilled to have each other in their lives (albeit it's not so much communication due to their ages and the fact that we live many thousands of miles apart). My older daughter boasts to her school mates about having a big brother...
We've been in reunion for nearly 3 years now. They were so young when I found him, and don't remember not knowing that they had a big brother. I'm hoping that helps with their relationships in the future (that is avoiding animosity because they didn't know...)
sorry, not much help really! :-)
I hope you do get some answers from people with this sort of experience. I'm in a pretty new reunion with my bparents, who married after my birth and later had two kids who they raised. The kids don't yet know that I exist, but hopefully will soon, and I'm hoping to have a relationship with them. One of them even lives fairly close to me (about 100 miles).
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