First attempt by adult adoptee

Hi Joe, It is not 'odd' to have the feeling of needing to search. It is pretty normal, some of us do, some don't. Never let someone tell you it is wrong for you to want to know where you came from. There are others from your era (like me) on these forums so if you have questions or anything just post them in the adoptee support forum. You can contact the court for your non-id information (ask for copies of everything) and per the link below in PA the court will actually search for your parents and ask them if they want contact... [url=http://laws.adoption.com/statutes/pennsylvania-laws.html]Pennsylvania Adoption Laws[/url] You can also post your search on the registry here, G's adoption registry and the ISRR. Welcome to the forums,Dickons

If you were baptized at the hospital, ask the church for a copy of your baptismal certificate. The diocese or arch diocese should have a copy they can provide for you. Good luck in this process. I pray you find what you need to find.

I Joe,I completely understand I am 48 years old and until both of my adoptive parents had passed away I only I thought about it once in a while. But now that there both gone I have a real need to know and it seems like its all I think about. I feel like I have to justify me wanting to locate my birth family because of my age. I also ask myself sometimes why now after all these years. All I can say is I don't know why its just something I HAVE to do. I hired a intermediary from the adoption agency I was adopted from 14 months ago and I know nothing more now then when I started. I also petitioned the court to open my adoption records but because I was born in Michigan and its a closed record state it was another dead end my last resort was I wrote to the Locator (the show on the WE network). So far nothing I only have first names and birth dates so its like I am hitting the wall before I even get start. So I really do know what your going through good luck I hope you have more success then I have.

...Welcome to the world of adoption and all it's "crazies." Ive searched x 45 years so there are not many responses and half truths left to hear.It's hard to know how to help someone search because you don't know how much info they have or where they are in their search.You have a right to know about your beginnings. Many of us frequently wonder how we got here and what the pathway was that got us to where we are now.It is a shame that many of the people that could have provided some info for you, have gone.If you know where your adoption was finalized, it will be helpful to contact the clerk of the court and get information on how you can gain any information you are seeking.If your records are sealed, you are entitled to have non-id information.If you wish to petition the court to unseal the records, the court clerk can provide that info as well. They will not give you legal advice.I wish you the best.

My name is Kellie R. Walls Sharpe. I have a 25 year old daughter born on December 1, 1984. My parents made me give her up... MADE ME. It was that or hit the streets as a teenager with no place to go. I don't have relatives..all my grandparents were dead and gone by the time I was born, no aunts and uncles who would have been brave enough to stand up to my father. When I had to finally tell them I was pregnant my father went and got his rifle.. pointed at my stomach and told my mother & sister standing in our kitchen that he was going to kill two birds with one stone. I can't remember why he didnt shoot me but, he DID go shoot at my daughters biological Dad while he was sitting in his car. No, he didn't hit him and my father never even got into any legal trouble despite what he did. They pulled me out of a school I'd gone to my entire life...moved us 2 1/2 hours away.. then locked me in the house. I swear to God in Heaven that from 4 1/2 months pregnant on the ONLY time I was allowed outside was to walk to the garage to get in the car to go to the doctor....not the mailbox.. not even the front porch swing (although I'd sneak outside and sit on that swing after they were asleep just to breathe some normal air) I wasn't allowed to cry.. to mourn... or "they'd give me something to really cry about." NOW****ITI WANT TO SEE MY DAUGHTER!!!!!!!!!! If you (the adoptive mom) ever read this... THAT WASN'T MY CHOICE AND I'M REALLY SORRY BUT I DESERVE TO AT LEAST KNOW THAT SHE'S OKAY.. THAT SHE'S HAPPY. I'm a good mother.. it's all I've ever known how to be and pretty much the only thing I've ever been good at. I have three boys 18, 17, & 9 so she has three brothers. It wasn't any easier for me to leave her at that hospital than it would have been leaving one of my sons. She was born at St. Mary's in Knoxville, TN. on 12/1/84.. 8lbs 22 inches and it's 2010 so I know she's on the internet like every other 25 year old girl in the world.. she just is.Please please please. if you read this please ask around to anybody you know if they know any girls born on that date.. PLEASE. just have them send me an email to Sharpek118@aol.com which is our family's main email account. I'm not looking to "take over" or whatever.. I honestly just need to know if she's okay.. if she's been happy.. I'm desperate and always have been but I swear the older I get the worse it gets. Probably because I've got grandbabies out there too now that my parents screwed me out of.I'll shut up now.. but please.. anybody and everybody who reads this if you could just ask a few people you know if they know any girls born on that date.. please.Do all adoptive parents put in their letters to birthmoms the words they will tell the child she's adopted? do they ALL say that? because I'm thinking with the internet and all the sites I'm registered on there's just no way they told her because I'd be too easy to find.I have a facebook page in my name Kellie Walls Sharpeand a myspace page that's the same.. you can find me there too