Reuniting With My Daughter After 30 Years

I lost my daughter in a custody battle 30 yrs ago.....my ex pulled strings with a judge he knew that was dating his sister and there were other affiliations which I won't mention....he has been in prison twice for grand larceny,....my daughter was put with his sister for that period of time as per his request and ok'd by same judge.....long story short, I was fearing my life 3 yrs into it @23 years old..exhausted,....I remarried and moved away, had another 2 children which I raised....My older daughter got away with murder from living with my old ex and turned into a party girl...and still is...my 2 other daughters finally found her whereabouts after years of searching, written letters and visits to my ex's house..... and they now all party together!....I have exchanged emails with her, but she could care less about meeting w/me...just wants to party with her long lost sisters and their husbands....I don't know how to handle this....throughout the years, I had tried to contact her, but we would have short conversations, then she would disappear from her residence to a new one! .... she was more interested in the fast life that she had lived in her teens and twenties @ her dad's than hearing from mom...she told me that when she was in high school, she would wait till her dad was asleep and sneak out the bedroom window, meet boys and party till dawn and then go to school still high from the night before.......she liked living w/her dad because of the freedom...and now she's 38, still partying and again could care less about reuniting with her mom, but parties with my other 2 other daughters, my other daughters have had the comfort of being raised by me and seem to be dwelling on the newness of the situation, they say that they talk and talk for hours, each not getting a word in edgewise between them.....I cannot make my other daughters a go between and they asked if I wouldn't do that anyway......I need some advice please!!