Facebook...

December 30, 2009

My daughter's biomom posted the pictures I gave her of our daughter on her facebook page. I'm not sure where to go with this... on the one hand, I gave the pictures to her. On the other hand, that's my kid. On the OTHER hand, its her child, too. Funny, but I can't really decide if I should ask her to remove them. I can't really decide if its hurting anything for her to post them. And, I know it probably brings her great joy to be able to show her friends pictures of her daughter.

Opinions?

As a reminder, we are in a fairly open adoption. We live in the same small town, run into mom probably AT LEAST once a week, have one hour visits with mom every three months and exchange pictures and letters at least every three months. Mom is not a danger to my daughter in any way now that she is not attempting to parent her.

BrandyHagz

December 30, 2009

I think it would depend on a number of factors:

Does she have the public or are they 'friends only'?

Have you told her specifically not to share them online or have you discussed the matter?

I wouldn't go to her and "tell" her anything - I'd just let her know that having them public makes you uncomfortable (if it does) and ask her to make them private.

Having them private and sharing them with only friends shouldn't be a problem...should it?

I have all of my pictures 'private' - for the most part.