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Not that I don't think that WhirledPeas has it coming (bad, I know, but she bugs me!) but if she comes back to this thread it could get really nasty.
[url]http://forums.adoption.com/general-adoptive-parent-support/369560-ot-what-department-do-i-contact.html[/url]
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the thing is...i think i understand what she is saying....for me, i don't think it is that kids only get an hour of instruction a day in public school....it is that the instruction they DO get can be done in about an hour a day if you have only ONE student. i say that as a homeschool parent AND a teacher. anyways....interesting thread....i'll keep an eye on it, too. :)
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Oh wait...I mean, yes, she is entitled to her opinion and that's okay.;)
i guess i just feel like giving people the benefit of the doubt today. lol. not sure why...that isn't like me at all. :)trust me...i don't want homeschooling to be right for me. lol. i just have to do what is best for my kid in a district that sucks. lol. the funny thing is, not only does my dh work in this district, but in the very school where my son was receiving a crappy education. lol. hence the homeschooling instead of the wrath of brook as she lobbies for change. ;) lol.
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I think it involves so much luck anymore when it comes to school. The right district, the right school, administration, teacher, curriculum etc. It's truly amazing the differences across the nation and even from one district to the next, and of course just one school to the next.I think Titus would do better in a homeschool or online school format, but he's also not very good at the social thing on his own, so I do worry about that.And oh, on another front on that thread...anyone think it's a little too much to suggest calling CPS for reckless bike riding? I get the safety aspect, sure, but I can just SEE it happening in MY life the way my kids play at times. wowza...
yeah, it is extreme. i mean it is dumb, but i don't know that it is neglect to let 5-10 year olds play unattended. i know in our neighborhood, i'm the only parent NOT letting their 6 year old ride bikes in the street unattended. i won't be doing it anytime soon, and it seems that it is i that gets looked down upon for not being more free spirited with my children. i think some kids are a better fit for it than others. my daughter excelled academically and had reduced anxiety and behaviors while being hs....but acted like she would have DIED if she didn't soon have peers to be around. my oldest son is not built for hs either. we did it to control his behaviors, and it makes for a good threat now and then, but it was an awful experience for both of us. my 6 year old was built for it. he loves it! he thanks me constantly for homeschooling him and says he will "never" return to regular school again. lol. but it really does suit him, he is actually progressing nicely, where in school he was regressing.
I think Titus would do better in a homeschool or online school format, but he's also not very good at the social thing on his own, so I do worry about that.
Trust me, teachers are accustomed to being accused of not doing any teaching! It was true in my early teaching days 35+ years ago when we didn't have half the paper work that has to be done now. It got especially bad when salaries were raised! (And my first year I was paid about $7000). I remember the time we were told all we did was baby sit. We all decided we'd gladly take babysitter's pay if that was the case. Babysitters then got about $2 an hour. Multiple that by 27 students times 6 hours a day... Do the math!)Children do learn differently; girls stereotypically are more comfortable in the ways most schools are taught for instance. As one who taught instrumental music, I could always accomplish more in a private lesson with one student than I could with a small group class of 6-10.When my children were young, the neighbor who lived on the corner constantly worried that a neighborhood child would be hurt by running out in front of a car or riding a bike in front, etc. They all survived (the neighbor too.)
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The thing is that people are just being so judgemental on that thread. It depends the 5-10 year old. It depends where they live and how busy the street is. It depends what they are doing and if it could get them killed. No, allowing a 5-10 year old to play outside unattended is probably not neglect (though in some neighborhoods it could be) but in my opinion it really comes down to what they are doing while unsupervised.
Judgmental people... on a.com?? You're kidding!!!!It depends on the community. The place I lived when my children were that age was a very safe place. There was little traffic and lots of neighborhood kids... The community where my son John lives (not too far from NYC)is far different and I would be much more nervous about letting my kids run free there. My grandson Shaunie lives in a town where he can't be outside much; when he came to my house for the summer he had free range (within certain boundaries). Of course he used to scare his other grandmother with the stories he told -- the river (a six inch ditch) for example. My point (I think there is one) is that location makes a big difference in how safe it is for a 5 year old to be outside. Parents also vary in how anxious they are in parenting style.
That is true, before we lived in a suburb of Dallas and my kids did ride bikes to school and out in front of the house, but they had limits. Now we are in a rural area, I let my younger ones out in the pastures to play. There are more livestock than people out here and lots of dogs, the dogs that run free are mostly working dogs, they won't hurt the kids, though they might herd them if they get near anything dangerous, they also will all bark if a stranger comes and they won't let strangers near livestock or children. (my neighbors dogs seem to think my children are a heard, even though only the two younger ones are usually out) My dogs like to chase goats so they have to stay fended. LOL
So much depends on the kid too. There are days that my younger son needs line of sight supervision even inside the house. And he is 6.5. His lack of good judgement amazes me on a daily basis. My oldest and youngest I had total confidence in that age. Though at times when they get around other kids they seem to loose their judgement as well! :arrow:
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