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I was just sent the the to this site this evening from the mother of my adopted sons biological brother. We are a close but interesting family. My son was diagnosed with RAD just today. She already had an idea with some of the stuff that I had told her that my son had gone threw before he was taken into Foster care. I could use as much information and help to deal with this. He has so much against him this this is just one more thing. I am hopeful that he will come out on top. BTW I also adopted his younger sister.
Welcome to the site. I don't have a wealth of information on RAD but you will see that you aren't the only one dealing with the situation. How old are your kids?
My daughter was 8 when she came home to us and didn't have RAD but attachment issues were a problem and three years later can still surface if something goes wrong.
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What kinds of things go wrong that trigger for your child? With my daughter, it is the consequences that follow for not making good choices. Also, once she makes a bad choice, it is as if she gets so frustrated for messing up again that she gives up and does all sorts of outrageous inappropriate behavior outside the home (school). The behavior I see at home when this happens is falling down on chores and the sullen attitude. It all has to do with shame, i.e., I messed up again, I'm no good, I'll just give up and be the "bad child" as she calls herself.There is nothing I can say that will change her mood at this point, but have to very closely supervise her for self-mutiliation and of course, suicide attempts.