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Hi! I'm not fostered or adopted but a friend of mine is. She is 17 and was in the foster system ever since she was 9, been bouncing around a little and finally adopted two years ago. That's when I knew her. I have to say, she is kind of rebellious and icy.
Ok, main point, she is going to have a reunion with her bmom next month. And she has been very moody ever since it was scheduled. She told me she is confused -- really angry at her bmom (for abandoning?) but somewhat want to know her at the same time. My friend doesn't like close relationships with anyone, I think it's because of how she grew up.
My question is, if you ever reunited with your bparents, how did you feel on the first meet? And if there was anger, how did it resolve in the end? I really want to help my friend so please help!
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I don't have experience with this but I think you are a great friend for wanting to help your friend. My advice is to just be there for her and listen to her if she wants to talk about it.
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I agree what a good friend you are wanting to help and make sure she is not upset.There is not a lot you can do except listen and be there for her which in itself is a worth a lot more then anything else you can do :)
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I remember all to well when I was 16 and reunited with my Father, I was scared, hurt, angry, confused. And the best thing anyone did for me was be my friend.
I pray she learns not everyone leaves, and that it is okay to feel how she does. I hope the visit went ok.
One day she will open up, all you can do for now is be there.:wings:
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