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We have an open adoption with BM. She has only chosen to see DS once since he was born a year ago but I have sent pics to her moms house. We sent the last set of pics in an Easter card and I thought that I could do that with a Mothers Day card. She is parenting one child so I don't think it would be akward. What do you guys think? I want her to know that we will always value her role in DS's life. I would honestly send her something like flowers if I knew for sure she was getting them. We haven't heard from her in a long time.
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We have an open adoption with birthmom. She has only chosen to see DS once since he was born a year ago but I have sent pics to her moms house. We sent the last set of pics in an Easter card and I thought that I could do that with a Mothers Day card. She is parenting one child so I don't think it would be akward. What do you guys think? I want her to know that we will always value her role in DS's life. I would honestly send her something like flowers if I knew for sure she was getting them. We haven't heard from her in a long time.
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If it is comfortable for you and your situation do it. Every adoption is different. Ours for example is not a situation in which we acknowledge Mothers Day with her. However, when DD is old enough she can make the decision on if she wants to send a card or not.
We send our agreed upon communication several times a year and for now that is all we can commit to doing. She also agreed to send an annual update, we have yet to receive one from her.