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I posted this in the adoptive parents forum, but realize this might be a better place, since ours is a foster-adoption.My daughter's bmom is due any day with a half-sib. I know she would likely want us to come to the hospital to see her and new baby. Our adoption is very open and going very well as far as that is concerned. My daughter is too young yet to "fully" grasp who this woman is, though we've explained it many times over. And she knows she is going to have a baby brother or sister.As an aside, we are the backup resource, by mom's choice, if she cannot parent this time around. We actually expect she will parent to the standards of the county she currently lives in (don't get me going) and with the help of a more competent partner than my daughter's bdad.Thoughts? Concerns?
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You are doing a kind, respectful thing for your daughter and the bmother. Take pictures, of course!
If, and I hope it doesn't happen (I mean, I hope bmother has learned some parenting skills), the baby comes to you, groundwork has been done for your daughter to become a big sister.
I think you will handle this beautifully! Let us know how it goes!
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This is totally my post in 3 months!my son too, will have no idea what's going on....and this baby is his sister or brother, but it's important to bmom and me that we meet baby-x. (we may even be bringing him home from the hospital despite her efforts, which will be sticky, sticky, sticky)I'm kinda glad the toddlers are clueless, because even trying to explain why the sib goes home with another mom would be too hard to sort in that little head.Definitely take photos! Good luck and I'll be looking on this open board to see how it went. (Especially with hospital staff, they are such sticklers with family and non-family visitors)