Help please!

I am no expert on fostering. But I have several very good friends who do foster. A couple things. First, you are a FOSTER parent, part of being a foster parent is that you are part of a process of hopefully reuniting a child with his or her parent(s). I understand that children in foster care go through horrible, terrible situations, and I am not advocating that children go back to situations where they are going to be abused, neglected, ect. ect. ect. I LOVE children. I own a daycare center. I am appauled by what some children go through and are exposed to. But just like my job, I have regulations and rules, that I don't always necessarily agree with, that I follow. Why? Because it is part of what I "signed up for" when I became a licensed daycare center. I think it is important to remember that the parent is NOT the enemy, so to speak, and will likely not make the same choices you would. I am kind of concerned why you are so upset with the social worker bringing the parent to visits. I think it is great that she is coming to the visits! And if the court said that the PARENT was to go to a class as part of her "plan" and she did that, then YES she should get her visitations. Not once in your post have you made a point that the parent was being nasty, mean, abusive, ect during these visits. So, why is it that you are so upset about these visits and the social worker bringing her? Why would you need to "report" her for coming to the visits!?!

Like Brock, I am puzzled as to what it is you are asking for help with. A legal document showing what that you can show to whom to accomplish what? Are you driving a far distance to get to the visits? If so, you might be able to request a transport worker. Personally, I think it is better for the caregiver to transport when possible so that the child has fewer transitions and a reassuring presence before and after but I understand that sometimes transporting does not work out well for some fps.

Mainly is that the children are able to have some contact with there biological parents in a safe environment for them to be watched by a trained professional that can be able to draw the line if the biological parent crosses the line that could cause the children harm that could be damaging destroying the purpose of supervised visits. It's not to lean. For example if your out at the club with some friends that been in your family since the beginning from a young age which would never turn there back on the group for anything then somebody says that something offensive to the group which did not happen during the visitations as far as I am aware of so would keep trying to keep contact with the biological mother the way it has been unless she is saying things that could be damaging that the children dont need to listent to.