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I appreciate anyone who will help me with some of these questions that I have.
I have always wanted to adopt a child or children. My husband and I have two of our own.. a 2 1/2 yo boy and a 10 month old girl.
We want to add to our family and I am trying to figure out if we should adopt or have another child.
I have this desire in me that will not ever go away... not that I want it to!!
I started researching adoption years ago... before we even conceived our first. And I came to the conclusion that it would be selfish of us to adopt bc we can have our own.
However... every time I desperatly seek God's plan for my life and ways that I can give back to Him... I always get this almost obsessive desire to adopt.
Not that I feel like we would be "rescuing" a child... only that God has really blessed us and we have room for more!
Would it be wrong for us to adopt if we can have our own?? We do not feel that an older-child or special needs adoption is right for us at this time bc of our very young children- but we would like to look into that more in the future.
We would be willing to adopt any ethnicity- my husband is Chinese and I am white... so we are already an interracial family.
Is there a huge need for people to adopt minority infants- or is that just a myth??
Where can I get more information??
Thank you!
Christy
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I have 2 bio boys and have wanted to adopt for a long time...and to be honest... you are not being selfish because you are not infertile...there are many ways to build a family and a great way is biological kids, but so is the adoption avenue..to me that are equally and both wonderful to do. Either way you can't go wrong! In the end...you will have the kids God wants you to have and be blessed with a bigger family. God Bless and also welcome!
Being a believer, and seeking God personally for His direction for your lives as a family, makes it exciting to see How the Holy Spirit will lead you. It sounds exactly the way He brought me into adoption, only I'm a never-married single woman who adopted four siblings out of foster care.
I disagree with suggesting that you adopt internationally. You have a lot to offer children here in the U.S. But no matter which direction you go, your own bio-children are very young, and still need so much of your energy and attention. You don't want to ever adopt children older than your own bios, since yours need the "edge" and the power-base. Older children (considered over 3) need to have siblings above them (in a family that already has bios) who can provide some boundaries, in case they act out, and push the limits of your love & discipline (which most do).
God luck, and God bless you as you seek His face.
Anita
My hubby and I have no fertility issues, we just started later in life and I have no desire to carry a child, but a strong desire to parent. I have a beautiful baby boy that I adopted domestically. RESEARCH everything. read these postes, contact adoption attorneys, talk to OBGyn's. Get a lot of input before you decide. Don't close any doors because of what others think!
God bless you on this journey!
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AlabamaMommy
My hubby and I have no fertility issues, we just started later in life and I have no desire to carry a child, but a strong desire to parent. I have a beautiful baby boy that I adopted domestically. RESEARCH everything. read these postes, contact adoption attorneys, talk to OBGyn's. Get a lot of input before you decide. Don't close any doors because of what others think!
God bless you on this journey!