the right place for something like this?

any ideas?

I think you bring up a really good point....because it DOES seem that there should be some cross triad discussion space! I think you do have a problem though because lots of first parents don't check the GAPS boards (for various reasons) and I don't think too many would take well to "our" boards being inundated with questions.... Interesting issue! Could we create a new forum in either space specifically for advice or something? Not support, you know?

I do think it's a good idea, but since I did the foreign adoption thing it's out of my area of expertise.

i was thinking the same thing. it would still be a lot of pm'ing bc i would feel like the bulk of the conversation would be about agency experiences. but i would feel better knowing i could post somewhere it would be read, and it would be read by people who wanted to read it...rather than inundating a support forum. and i don't know how many people would use it.....but if it is even a handful then at least there would be an appropriate place for that.

Exactly. Also, like adoptive parents, first parents have their own little networks too where I might read it and know that so and so used that agency and can maybe make the recommend. Might be a slow start, but I think it could definitely be a useful service. AND a way to model that first parents could/should be part of that conversation! (Which I think is actually the coolest part!)

I can't designate a whole forum for that purpose alone as it wouldn't get used enough to warrant the space it takes up. Not saying it's not a good idea, mind you. If the rules were to bend slightly on agency discussion, it would be a possibility, but right now that's just not going to happen.We can do a thread in the communication between ap's & bp's as that is not intruding on anyone's "own" board and it can be stuck at the top. That's about as good as it gets I think.It would need to be modeled exactly like the other feedback thread we have only tailored to the bparent experience. (for consistency)I will look around at other forums, but think that's likely the best place because it is at least in the bparent section, so they'll be more apt to see it. Then I can stick a feedback II thread in GAPS with a link to it for the PAPS interested in getting bparent feedback.

that would be awesome. thank you for even considering it and for coming up with a solution. :)

Thanks Crick! I think that would be great :) Do you think it would be possible to do like a little "announcement" type thread to let people know of it's new "sticky" existence?