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Hi, I am new to the forum.
Just a little background, both my wife and I are adopted, though our adoptions were within the first few months of birth.
Now, we are adopting our first child, placed in our home a week ago. Since it is a fost-adopt, we still have some heart-wrenching moments ahead before the "all-clear" sign shows up.
Anyhow, here is me question:
Our little one is crying when put down (normal, I know). However, this is a neglect case. At what point does the "we don't play bedtime games" supercede the "bonding at bedtime" issues?
Currently, a fit is thrown everytime we leave the room. That is also very common in natural toddlers. This fit lasts about 5 minutes, then stops. Sleep then comes 5-15 minutes later. However, if we were in there, sleep would be 1/2 and hour or more away...
Are we doing "bonding damage" by laying her in bed and saying goodnight, kissing her, saying prayers, tucking her in, and leaving? (this of course, is at the end of an hour to hour and a half bedtime ritual which includes watching the night time baby channel for bed preparation, while she lays in our arms).
Or, I am worrying too much?
Thanks....
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