Comfort in our open adoption:)

me-n-u

September 20, 2010

Everytime I get a glimpse into her life....I find a little bit of comfort.

Comfort that:

she is happy and healthy

she is loved unconditionally

her family is supportive of our relationship

I know the sound of her voice and she mine

she knows where her big brown eyes come from

she has answers to her questions

I can make her laugh

I know where she is

she knows I think about her everyday

she knows I love her

her parents and I communicate

not only can I glimpse into her life but I am part of her life, even if it's just a little:)

With all the up's and down's in open adoption please share your comfort's of OA and we can re-read them on the down days <3

JustPeachy

September 21, 2010

I didn't have a fully open, but have always felt comforted in my semi-open, where I was at least able to get pictures and letters.

I could see what my child looked like as he grew, and he could see what I looked like and who else in the family he resembled through seeing pictures of them, too.

I could see he was well cared for, loved, and given the opportunities and experiences that I was not able to provide to him.

I could tell my son I loved him and thought about him all the time, and could tell him in my own words why I made the decision to place him for adoption.

I could hear in his parents' words how much they cared about me.

I have gotten to know my son's family over the years and have grown to like them very much.

The foundation we have built helps as I navigate reunion. My son doesn't feel "in the middle" because he sees that we are all on the same page in terms of how we are going about the process.

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me-n-u

September 24, 2010

Thanks for sharing....

I too find comfort knowing we are all on the same page and she will not be "in the middle".

Blessed2x.