Want to adopt

I don't know about Kansas, but here in CA there are plenty of boys in need of families. Have you considered out of state adoption?

I'd suggest out of state too. Lots of boys who fit your preferences here in TX. Not all the kids on the websites are severe. Each child is different. There are different reasons that they havent been adopted yet.

Thanks for the help. We did have a staffing for a child in Missouri. It was between us and another family. When my social worker got the dates confused and wasn't there for the three way conference call (we had emails stating it was the next day) they proceeded without her and neither of us were chosen so she is going to continue recruiting. We couldn't believe it. I'll try looking in California and Texas for a child. This process is so frustrating. Thanks so much for your replies.

When you say "trying with no luck", how long have you been trying? I ask because some families become discouraged and disillusioned after the first 2-3 months. Our adoption process was considered fairly quick and we were matched about 10 months after we were homestudy ready. But the process was not easy. We were considered a number of times and not matched, which is (as you know) very disheartening!!There is an exchange that covers some of the foster kids waiting families in NW states that you might look into.

It has been 1 1/2 years of waiting. We aren't looking for a baby just a boy to foster with the hopes of adopting. We've looked at adoptuskids and adoptkskids for kids all over the country. I did get an email from an adoption worker who said that many kids are suddenly coming into the system and we should have one soon. It is really sad though that so many kids are coming into the system. Hopefully, we will be able to help one soon. Thanks for all your help.

I completely understand where you are coming from! We have the same frustration. We've been on the "list" since Early Dec 09 and no matches yet but we have been rejected a whole bunch of times! It's not like we are very restricted in our preferences either. We are looking for 1-3 kids, caucasian or hispanic, ages infant to 10 yrs old, boy or girl, moderate behaviour issues, past sexual abuse, and mild learning disabilities yet we've not come close. I look on every site I can find and we're looking all over the country. There are plenty of children matching our preferences and we've inquired on several hundred but continue to be rejected. I've found that many state agencies do not want to work out of state because of all the red tape when having to go through the ICPC dept. I've also had case workers tell me we're not being selected because we've not held the title of "parents" before. My background in childcare seems to have no weight nor does our training through the state seem to matter much. I hope we all are matched soon with the child(ren) meant for us as I know how frustrating this process is.

If it is any help Needtobeamom, my husband worked with a lady who wanted to adopt and she and her husband had no kids. They eventually adopted a sibling boy and girl and then she got pregnant and then later adopted the third sibling after the bio mom gave birth. It will happen especially since you are willing to take a sibling group. Maybe if took the kids in as foster kids, chances are ties would be severed and you and your husband would be the likely family to adopt. I personally prefer foster parenting first. This gives our family a chance to bond with the child and then when the offer is given, we can accept or decline vs. being chosen to adopt and then after meeting the child, realizing they weren't a good match for some reason. Could you do foster care first?

Thanks, childforever. In, GA, we are licensed foster to adopt but they will only give us a "foster" child if they truly believe the courts are about to terminate parental rights. We've thought of doing foster care only and then hoping one placement turns into an adoption situation however, I don't think we can currently do that knowing that most of the time, we will have to give the kids back after we've bonded with them. I think it would just hurt too much. In the past couple of weeks, there have been a few situations come up that we are hopeful about but we'll have to wait and see.

We were licensed in may and a few weeks later we got a 11yo fd and 5 yo sister (moved to therapeutic home after a month) and 11 yo is still here. We inquired half august on 10yo boy E on dcfs website from our state. We got a call about third week of september from recruiter that E was still up for adoption (he was legal free for adoption).After we got some info we decided to go thru and then they called us that same week that they were gonna place E in our home because his medicaid for therapeutic FH ran out. But with intervene from his FM he is still there and we decided to do slow transitioning. We already had E for 2 visits in our home and we have him on sunday and then for thanksgiving weekend and he will probably move in by christmas.This was our first inquire and everything went realy quick. Good luck!