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Hi all, my partner and I are in the process of adopting. We are in an AA/ biracial program with our agency but we have been doing a good deal of networking on our own over the last month. It just occurred to me that we could be offered a CC baby through our networking. I a black and I would have no issues falling instantaneously in love with the baby but I wonder how the child may relate or have issues later in life. I see it as no different than a CC person adopting a AA baby but it is less common. Anyone have this experience? Thoughts..comments?
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I happen to know two families IRL that are black with white adopted children. I think there are differences in that people dont often "assume" adoption when meeting you with your child (which quite often they do with us as white parents of black children) but will assume daycare or foster caer or nanny etc. Honestly, I dont think its any less or more complicated than any other transracial adoption - in fact, maybe easier because you arent dealing with the realities of raising a minority child in a majority world :)
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We're in the same situation as an interracial couple working with an AA/biracial agency program and having sent letters to friends and family. It just never occurred to me that we might get contacted about a Caucasian child until our home study SW asked, when we stated we were open to any race, "does that also mean Caucasian?" I'm white and my husband is black. He says he's open to it, and half of our future child's family is white, so we decided to include it.
The difference that I note is how you will be treated as Black people with a White child. Especially the Black father. We have a combo in our family and his bio kids look cc and he is very dark.There are a couple of articles of a couple irl who went through or is going through this type of an interracial family set-up. Best wishes regardless.
I think what Jensboys said is on target. A friend of mine in an IRL marriage has been asked if she was a nanny for her adopted children, and her children simply have lighter skin (one child is AA and one is bi-racial).
I am white with 2 bio children and one AA son, and most people seem to assume I am mom to all three, but I have been asked by repairmen if I run a daycare. I think anytime you go outside the "norm" you will get responses like that as people try to process what they are seeing. How it affects our children will likely depend on how we respond, whether we are offended or acknowledge that our family is somewhat unique and try to educate others when they notice the differences and attempt to process what they see.
Rhonda