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We are foster parent wanting to adopt. We were chosen to adopt a little boy we have known over a year. we did respit for his foster parents(he had been with them a yr) his parent were TPR'd and the foster parents said they did not want to adopt him from the beginning. He has been with us 4 months now and doing great and we just found out his former foster parents want him back and are being allowed to petition to adopt him and submit a homestudy and a review board will decide who will be able to adopt. we are devastated by this he is doing so great with us we love him and they told us and everyone involved they did not want to adopt. we are just waiting now. does anyone have any suggestions for us have you ever heard of this happening? should we get an attorney. We dont want to lose him!!
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It won't look too good for the former fp saying that they were not interested in adopting and 4 months after he was moved into an adoptive home changing their minds.
Put together a scrapbook that is filled with photos of him and various people in your family interacting. Make sure to have some of you and him together, perhaps sitting together in the evening reading a book, cuddling, sharing an ice-cream cone, etc.
Good luck.
This is just horrible! Why would they be allowed to re-enter the ball game as it were? That just strikes me as something that would never happen if the system were sane. They made a decision. So live with it. This little boy isn't a ping pong ball. Did everyone tell him that yours was an adoptive placement?
Did the former fosters tell him that? Did the SWs or CWs tell him that? Did you tell him that? If so, why is anyone suggesting making liars out of everyone that said that? Does anyone think he would be able to trust the other family, after they willingly gave him up once?
On to practical suggestions. Does the little boy have a GAL? Does he have a CASA? If not, can you contact the CASA organization and ask if they can assign a CASA to him? (Even if he has a GAL!)
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:coffee: Oh wow. I am sorry to hear you all is going through this. The previous foster parents should have kept him from the beginning. It is not fair to the child to be pulled from family to family and school too. He is only four. If they wanted him they should have stated that from the beginning. If they win the child may be upset with them and may act out. They need to do what is best for the child and not themselves. Maybe, they should just ask you can they stay apart of his life since they were there at three. My foster/adopt child still has contact with his previous foster mom. He can contact her as long as he want. I do not have a problem. We felt it was essential that he kept ties with her because of the length of time he was there.