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Hello! My DH and I are adopting embryos interracially. We are caucasian and the embryos are AA. We have struggled with IF for 5 years. I have always wanted to adopt (even before IF) and have never seen race as an issue. My family is part Middle Eastern and I was raised in that culture so I never saw race or ethnicity in people. Now that we are close to a match, I am beginning to freak out a little as I look at all the issues I hadn't thought about before. I was trying to look for some good research about this and didn't really find any. I'm excited and scared (not in a bad way though). I'm sorry if this is somewhat incoherant- I'm not sure how to say what I'm thinking. :confused: Any help or advice is greatly appreciated!
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Hello and Welcome to the forums! What I did when researching transracial adoption was research as much as I could. John Raible is a transracial adoptee who is a well known author and speaker. Kevin Hoffman is also a transracial adoptee who has a wonderful blog and has written a book called "Black in White". I also have a book called, "I'm Chocolate, You're Vanilla" and a book called, "Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together In The Cafeteria." The Cafeteria book was written by a black sociologist (I can't remember her name) and is very eye opening. I'm sure others on this thread will give you more book suggestions and blogs to read. Hang out here on this forum too. There are quite a few of us raising black children. We share our ups and downs and support each other. There are also a few black folks here who give us guidance and direction and advice. This is a great place to learn and get support. Good Luck with your adoption!
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Thank you so much! I had always known that race would not be an issue but had never thought about the identity issues. I struggled with that myself as an adolescent as a Middle Eastern who looks white. As soon as we were told of the possible match, I have been trying to devour every bit of knowledge I can and am now feeling overwhelmed. I just never thought about all the little things that go into parenting an AA child as a CC parent. I want to be able to give this child the best home and life possible!