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I am watching a fellow bmom go through her first f2f... and am seeing so many correlations with my first f2f with my daughter. And I am in tears. I wish I knew then what I know now about how to talk with her/what to expect/be easier on myself. I have SO many regrets. If only I do it all again, I would gladly take on the pain of reunion... Are there any occasions (besides the adoption itself, obviously) that any of you wish for a "do-over"...?Soprano
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It's kinda bad! We took my son and his gf and my daughters that I'm raising to Disney in Paris last summer. I kind of wish we hadn't and feel bad that I feel that way!
I just felt really taken for granted the entire trip. Maybe my expectations that it would make us closer were too high.
It also didn't help that we had the shadow of his amom's resent freak out towards me hanging over our heads. He posted loads of pictures on FB, not a single one of my or my DH, just one or two with his sisters. You would think that they'd gone to Paris completely by themselves from that!
It's horrible, but it's made me a bit bitter.
I guess I resent that we put forth a lot of money for them to come with us and we barely got a thank you.
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Q,
Yeah, the money thing is definitely a "do-over". I've often found myself buying/giving/loaning to my daughter with barely an acknowledgement after the fact... From my perspective, I really want to give her things because of the many years I've missed out on... but at times I feel a bit like the "cash cow". Sigh.
Soprano