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I gave my son up for adoption 16 years ago, he just found out he was adopted shortly before X-Mas 2010, I have facebook and so does his sister, she and I have been talking, she gives me updates on how he is handling everything, the amom just won't talk to me, she hates me right now. Anyhoo, I sent him a message on facebook, and he finally replied about 3 weeks later, just this week, he is happy, doesn't hate me, because I always feared the worst, we have even been texting back and forth and that was his request, not mine!!!!! YAAAYY I am so happy my heart is so full of JOY!!!!!:clap: :clap: :clap: :clap: :clap: :clap:
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Congratulations. Take it slowly, and let his amom learn that neither of you are trying to replace her, and that love multiplies the more people we love.
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The sister I am assuming is also adopted so she may have sympathy. You did the right thing. Enough time has passed since he found out. It was wrong for the mother not to tell him so it doesn't surprise me that she is not open to this. She feels threatened. You need to write her a nice letter thanking her for being his mother and that you don't wish to become a part of his life until he is fully an adult and can make up his own mind.
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I can't speak to his amom she is just not open to me at this point, I think she literally hates me...I still have an open line of communication with his sister she is just fantastic, I am doing only what my son needs, if he wants to message me he can, if not I will wait, I am enjoying this time in my life starting this new relationship.... My daughter is extremely happy also!!! Thanks for the support!!!
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I know the feeling! I waited 31 years and now my son lives next door! It's only been 7 months so we're still making up for lost time. Enjoy your teenager and be a good listener for him!
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Mazel tov! :) I'm a birthmom also and have recently been contacted. We've talked on the phone and messaged in facebook. They can find you fast on facebook these days.
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I would still try to talk to the A Mom. Who knows what is going on? Maybe her and the son haven't been on good terms-as often with any teen, parent, or may be threatened that you didn't contact her first. The better you communicate with her, the better for the son. If you have any questions, i can help you with it, I am on the other end of the stick, and would have loved for my son's b mom to contact me!
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I would still try to talk to the A Mom. Who knows what is going on? Maybe her and the son haven't been on good terms-as often with any teen, parent, or may be threatened that you didn't contact her first. The better you communicate with her, the better for the son. If you have any questions, i can help you with it, I am on the other end of the stick, and would have loved for my son's b mom to contact me!
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So glad you've found love! He may have wondered if you loved him or not. I know my son questioned my love for 31 years before we met. Save your texts ! They can be printed.
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