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So I've often read posts people have written about remarks made by family members and thought "wow, thank goodness people in my family aren't like that!"
Well.
We were with an extended family member, someone we might see moderately often. Hubby and I were complaining about our previous pediatrician who happened to be aa. The new doc (who is white) happens to be a classmate of mine and I really like her and she did a really thorough examination. Had a better bedside manner with babies too.
So this family member (who happens to be Indian and a college professor too) says, "where did she go to school, the islands?!" me: "no, actually temple university." this person: "Oh she probably just got in because she was black." (smiling and snickering meaningfully to someone else next to me who laughed.) At which point hubby cut in and said "you can't say things like that in front of us or our children."
I'm not sure if I should make a further deal out of it or avoid this person or just wait and see what falls out.
Oh, and I feel bad for any aa students he might have also, with this guy being so biased right off the bat, yikes!
I hope your kids were not around to hear that comment. I feel sorry for any black students your friend may teach too. Good Grief!
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I think your husband handled it well... What was the response of the offending family member?
NOT being at all racist, I agree that your DH handled it well...if you wanted to be a little snide, you could have said something like "well, did you get into your college because you're indian?"...i know, sinking down to their level, but still, probably would have made me feel better...
Your husband handled that very well. I, too, am interested in how this person reacted.
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Yeah that one was a sucker punch.... but after hubby's comment the person had no more to say on that topic. He just smiled and looked around.
I am going to hate it when my babies grow up if any accomplishment they achieve is attributed to having help due to minority status. I hope that idea is not very prevalent in society but sadly I think it might be.
Good for your husband. You mess with one of us in the family you mess with all of us is how I look at it. And you don't want to do that :)