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Hi everyone. I am new to the forums and look forward to meeting some intelligent, interesting and like-minded people. I also have an issue I could use some insight on.
I made contact with bio-dad three years ago at the age of 20. We have an excellent relationship. He lives in another country but we email weekly and speak on the phone from time to time. Initially there was talk about him telling his parents and my three younger half-sisters (age 2,5 and 12) about me, and perhaps visiting. Knowing that my birth has been a secret between him and my birthmother for 23 years, and that him having a large family adds a complications, I told him to take his time explaining the situation.
Today, three years later, he still hasn't told anyone and there hasn't been any talk of meeting. Being a laid-back person, I'm generally cool with the situation and assume that when he's ready he'll address things. But he often tells me stories about his parents and my sisters or sends me obituaries when older bio relatives pass away. At these times I feel terrible that I'm missing out on being part of these people's lives; people that seem so compelling and talented and quirky (many of them also work in the same field as me). I feel that I'd love the chance to play at least a small part in the lives of my younger sisters. And when someone passes away, I can't help but think there's another connection that I never had the chance to make. I often want to broach the subject but don't want to seem pushy or ungrateful. Thoughts?
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