Altamira

um, rude much? i don't like him either. maybe if i stopped patting myself on the back for being an awesome parent long enough i'd feel differently. but i can't stop *pat,pat,pat* i am too amazing.

You're married though. That father figure is key to your awesomeness. ;)

uh huh. riiiiiiiight. let's face it....it is all me. :thankyou: thank you, thank you very much. :thankyou:

I checked out his profile and other posts... he's an adoptee from Guatemala who is trying to find his bmom and doesn't even have a name.His view point (unhappy adoptee) now makes sense to me (not sure I agree with it, LOL!) Do you think his bmom lacked a protector and that's why he was adopted?I can't wait till he figures out how to attack bmoms too. (Hmm, maybe we were all innocents looking for that manly protector and were taken advantage of!)

Not having met your husband, we will go with that. :cool:

i am going with he lacked a father figure at all and was raised by a single mother for whatever reason and resents it. i hate the broad strokes he paints. and not to lessen his pain or encourage the thought that adoptees should be thankful....BUT there are thousands and thousands of children every year in guatemala who live on the streets and in garbage dumps without families who would gladly take a single parent over trying to find their livelihood on their own in the trash. i guess i'd just appreciate some perspective for kids who get left behind. i spent a year working in an orphanage in korea...and also saw that for as many children that got adopted....many did not. i almost feel like there should be a 4th opinion added into the "triad"....those who were abandonned, removed, or had an adoption plan made for them....who were actually never given the chance to have a family at all.

Totally agree. I had read his profile earlier and while I am sorry he is so unhappy it doesn't give him the right to be nasty and project his opinions onto all adoptees. If he wants to present his opinion as an adoptee that is great, but it can be done politely and as his opinion. (I am currently on vacation with DH's entire family and I have expended all charitableness and understanding for today. :yoda: )