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I have a question concerning opening contact with my half brothers. They have been told I exist, and I have contact info for both of them. I won't recap my entire story here. For those curious, more info can be found at [URL="http://forums.adoption.com/making-contact-communicating/394241-reunion-limbo.html"]http://forums.adoption.com/making-contact-communicating/394241-reunion-limbo.html[/URL].
I'm giving serious consideration to just opening contact with the two of them, independent of what may or may not ever happen with my b-mom. I have this feeling that nothing will come from sitting and waiting to see if things get ironed out on her end (which probably won't be anytime soon) and am getting a little tired of playing the waiting game.
Does anyone see an issue with me just taking steps to open communication directly with them? I don't know much about how the initial annoucement to them that I exist went, but there were no major blow ups. On one hand it seems like it would be the most PC thing to do to tell my b-mom before doing it, but getting in contact with her has been increasingly difficult lately, so I'm back to the tired of playing the waiting game.
I'd welcome anyone's thoughts. Thanks!
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I see nothing wrong with it. My only caution, and this is for your sake, is if they get this news out of the blue, they may follow their mother's wishes, or avoid you out of a feeling of loyalty to her. Then again, they may welcome you with open arms. I have a good reunion with my bmom, BUT, I am particularly fond of my half brother, and am so grateful for that relationship. I hope you find the same!
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