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Well, add us to the list of frustrated people trying to adopt. We've been licensed over a year and have inquired about a few children. In our state you can only have one home study out at a time, so we have to wait MONTHS to even hear something (IF we hear anything) and then if it doesn't work out we have to wait to find another child. Then, submit a home study to THAT child's caseworker and wait MONTHS again just hoping to hear something.
To top it off, we're looking at adopting older children (8-15) and we're STILL not getting anywhere. Everyone always says that you can't find enough homes for older kids. Well, there's one right here! WHY will no one bother to even get back to us in a timely manner?:hissy:
I'm rambling, I know. It's just so incredibly frustrating. Even if the answer is "no" at least tell us! With only having one home study out at a time, it's going to be impossible to adopt anytime soon. I just want to quit. :grr:
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. And congratulations to all of you who have been able to realize your dreams of adopting. :banana:
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Ugh! I feel your pain. We have the same problem (only we can inquire about as many kids as we want). We wanted ages 5-15. we would take sibling groups, medically fragile, etc. we were pretty broad in what we could handle. Nothing. we did chosen to go into a interview for a girl but the week of a family member stepped up. Her caseworker told us to be patience and to stay interested because this wasn't going to work out. Image my horror, when two months later I saw the same girl's flyer at an older child adoption event! Her caseworker refused to call us back. So, we decided to foster with the goal of RU. In less then a month we got two children (not related) and we are getting a third by the end of Oct. All should come up for adoption by us! Yes, there is still a chance that they made end up being RU. But it is very unlikely and well worth the risk. My advice is to foster.
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I don't get it either. Very frustrating! :grr:
I think my frustration is being compounded by seeing several that other families were chosen for without ever talking to us ending up having placement disrupted and back up for adoption.
How traumatic that must be to go thru for these children. :hissy: :(
and gives me such little faith in the system to do due diligence finding these precious kiddos a safe, happy, forever family! :hissy:
:fish: :happydance: :coffee: I don't understand, why would they say its best to let older children age out. I found my forever son on another adoption photolisting. He is an older child. It took a couple months for the adoption social worker to contact me. We talked and I didn't hear anything else from her until five months later. Within a week of that conversation, we picked him up.He is a foster child, but we are completing the paper work for adoption. It is a long process, but he is finally in our home.Waiting is the hard part. I hope you will be contacted soon. In the mean time, enjoy your freedom and do somethings for yourself.
Last update on November 14, 10:37 am by Sachin Gupta.
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It's sad, but true: we are limited to having ONE home study out at a time--in state or out. If you want to hear something else "amusing"--we aren't allowed to have a copy of our own home study! We've never seen it or read it. :(
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I agree w/Lady Jubilee, seems like reading your study should be required, not prohibited. We reviewed ours & were allowed to keep a copy. It's our information after all. Perk of PA is that you get reimbursed for the homestudy fees once you have a finalized older child adoption. We're still waiting on that reimbursment 1 year later, but it's out there!