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I have a question about cutting our fs hair. First let me say he's AA/Mexican. His hair is EVERYWHERE...lol. its a Hot Mess! Real soft curls along with some spots of Very Straight hairs!
I've been told by several ppl that I CANNOT cut an AA's babies hair until there 1yr. old....even by my hubby(who's AA, but has very little hair..hehehe).
What is the deal with cutting before age 1? Hope someone can clear this all up for me please.
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Here, we have to get at least verbal permission from the parent(s) to cut or trim a foster child's hair. But even if you don't have to get permission in your area, does his mom have any ideas on how to care for his hair? Or you could ask a hair dresser who specializes in that type of hair.
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Yes, here too we need bio parents permission to cut hair, but he was removed at birth, and mommy only had a few visits with him until she just stopped showing up...daddy is "ummm, don't know".....so right now, we'd only need the cw's permission to get his hair cut. I'm not worried about getting the permission..it's that I'm wondering just what is the deal with NOT cutting his hair until he's at least 1 yr. old.
O I understand now... I just did some quick looking on the internet and it seems that it's an old wives tale to wait until they're a year old. That if you cut it before, you give the child bad luck. :-) Some say it stops or slows down the hair from growing back. Other people said it comes back thicker and still others say hair is hair... it'll grow back. :-) Now that I think about it, white people do sort of the same thing but I never thought about the reasons. One of our babies had curly beautiful blonde hair and he was a boy. I hated the thought of his first hair cut and postponed it until he was a little over a year old. I guess for me, it seemed like they entered a new phase of life and stopped being a baby if I cut it earlier than a year old. Maybe there are others who have a better reason for waiting. But that's what I've found.
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Our close friends are AA...Their son has had a short sleek haircut since he was a baby....Looks great and his hair is thick. Tapered sides with a slightly longer top...
Only thing I would worry about is losing the curls..Seems like when we cut off a babies curls they dont come back the same unless they are intended to be curly forever..if that makes sense. I would go to an AA barber personally. Our sw said we could maintain whatever cut they came with...
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Usually you have to have the birth parents permission first. We were able to with one of our foster kids by requesting permission at the child's court hearing and the judge said we could. We did and the birth parents got extremely mad after the fact, but if they really cared they should have showed up for court.
Not sure anyone will read this. It may be that in hispanic cultures, they do not cut hair before 1 year. We were taught in training to respect those cultural differences- old wives tail or not. If it is ratty, nasty split ends and the child is 5 and the child's hair is all in his eyes, well that's a different story. Check what is in writing from your agency preservice training. Every agency is different.....