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So today I noticed that I was hemmoraging friends on FB, normally I don't pay much mind, but I just changed jobs and I was curious to see how many ex co-workers were dying to get rid of me :evilgrin: Instead I noticed my DD is gone :confused: She was there just 2 days ago, because she had updated her status, but when I look at the messages we sent to eachother, her pic and link to her name is gone (at least the messages are still there!) I know that it has NOTHING to do with me. We exchanged a brief message a few weeks ago, and she promised an update soon. I know that it's more likely normal college aged drama (bored of FB, fight with boyfriend, etc etc). However, this has been our main means of communication since we started contact last year; our first contact was through FB messaging. It's been a great way to passively get to know eachother and keep in touch, especially since we are both super busy. It makes me sad that I don't have that medium to connect with her everytime I see her name in my feed :( I do have her e-mail address, so our connection is not totally lost. I'll probably reach out to her so that she knows she can keep in touch through e-mail. Honestly, I still have to work through that tiny 1% of insecure doubt that if she wanted to keep in touch, she'd have kept her FB open, or emailed me herself, or something happened and she wants to cut ties. The ball has been in her court for a long time now, and I know that if I don't e-mail her, it's likely we will lose touch, as I have been the one keeping the lines open. Here's hoping she's just taking a short break? Blech :(
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Sarah, I don't know if I can send her messages, I'm pretty sure she's deleted her account all together, as she is also gone from her mom's list as well, and doesn't come up in search :( (I checked lol) Crick, I'm sure the "new" FB could have something to do with it, I know a lot of people have gone silent because it's so open now. Plus she's in college, she's busy etc etc. I guess it's hard because we lost that avenue, I feel slightly cut off from her now. It triggers that "OMG, I could lose her again" fear that's constantly in the back of my head. Even if it's probably not the case (((hugs)))
With all the changes on FB I have no clue what's going on most of the time. Try not to panic. I find that my contacts with my adult children ebb and flow, including the contact with bson. I hear your fear and it's hard to let go of the fear. If FB doesn't work for now, the two of you will find another way to connect.
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It's probably natural to assume it's you, but for all you know she's avoiding someone in one of her classes. My niece has dropped me from FB a couple of times and I asked about it. I guess an exboyfriend hijacked her account.
Wait a couple days, then just drop a short, sweet email saying "hey there. Haven't seen you on FB lately. Just wanted to make sure everything is okay?"
Checked Google+, I'm on it too tho not very active. She's not there. No Twitter, no myspace, nothing :( I did send her a quick message as suggested, but she hasn't replied. I'm not surprised, she doesn't reply a lot. This whole reunion is not what I initially thought it might be (It never really is !) and it's a struggle for me to hang in there at times like this. I keep feeling as if I'm going to be rejected, and that I don't have any right to feel that way when I'm the one who decided to place her. It just sucks right now.
(((((Browneyes)))))
Try not to be too discouraged...your daughter is still very young, and I'm positive she'll be back in touch with you. I do know how you feel at the moment, though. I'm currently having some difficulties with my son...and we're coming up on our 22nd reunion anniversary in a few months.
Reunions are difficult at times...but the one thing I've seen over and over again is that they do come back eventually. :loveyou:
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If she is not on fb or google or twitter then it sounds like she is trying to get away from an ex boyfriend or someone else who she thought was a friend maybe. I have a neice who had an ugly falling out with a boyfriend and she had to shut everything down for awhile. I didn't know she was having problems until I noticed that she was not listed on my friends list anymore. I emailed her and then she told me what was going on. It took her a while to email me back because she was very busy with college and upset by what had happened and wasn't ready to talk about it yet. I know all too well the terrible things your mind says to you when it's been a while since you have heard from your child. However, Raven is right (as usual). Your daughter will email you back eventually and everything will work out. (((hugs)))
