Adopting Christian children?

I support you in finding out information with this. I am of earth based values myself and admire you for seeking out information. I think openness is key!

I don't think u should be adopting Christian children,unless the Christian mom is on board.With that being sad,u sould look for a mom,that's not religious.I fill the same way,when it comes to myself adopting.I wouldn't think it was okay,to adopt someone,thats a different religion,pagon or atheist,since I can't offer them,that lifestyle.

I am Christian, but my mother in Pagan, I have a sister who is athiest and one who is whatever will impress her boyfriend of the week. If you are looking at domestic private infant adoption then you would have to be open, but I think there would be emoms who would be interested in you just because you are not Christian. Some have been badly treated by Christians and would be happy to have their children raised by a different religion. Others won't care. Those who want kids raised Christian would not choose you. If you are doing the foster route, then a lot will depend on the age of the child. I think if they are doing a matching for an older child who has been raised Christian, they would probably not match them with you. However, you be on the short list for a child raised pagan. For a very young child it won't matter, if they are a preschooler they might have questions and if you just answer them matter of factly as in, "in our house we do things this way, we believe this and we say this" You can acknowledge that in their first home or foster home things were done differently without ever being negative. Just like, they lived in a blue house and we live in a green house. They had a brown carpet and a tan couch and we have wood floors and a red couch or whatever. You get the idea. Basically telling them differences are OK while gently explaining what you do and how and why you do it. "We do this, like this because we believe this" Younger kids will take it in a stride and adjust. You will have to deal with differences from their school friends later just as you would for a child you gave birth to and as I did when my son found out his Jewish friends got gifts for 8 days in December, LOL. Also it's very normal for teens to explore and rebel a little, so kind of be expecting that. Good luck!

Some Christians are adopting non-Christian children, often for the express purpose of imposing their religion. I really don't think you should consider this an issue. I don't believe a-parents should face discrimination on the basis of belief. I did not disclose my spirituality on any forms. If you're in a system where the b-parents actually get to choose, you might want to let them know, but in general I think this is not an issue anyone should be allowed to muddle in. That doesn't mean that I wouldn't try to find out what the child's ancestral spiritual tradition was and support that and help the child learn about it. Given the child's culture of origin, how long were the child's ancestors likely Christian or Buddhist or whatever? That may have a bearing on what other symbols you include in your home, just as you might with ethnic or cultural symbols.

Hello! I know this is a very old thread, but I thought I would clarify what I meant a little more in my original post. We are trying to adopt through foster care, so whether or not their bmom is Christian will have little to do with which children we are matched with.Also, we are looking for kids ages 0-6, so they will be young enough to adapt to our lifestyle, no matter how they were raised. Momraine, what you said is basically how we feel about it. If we get matched with kids who are used to going to church, and actually WANT to go, we will support them 100%. However, if they don't ask to go and don't have anything really tying them to church, we won't. But if they do ask questions, we plan on telling them that different people believe different things. This is just what we believe, but will support them no matter what path they choose (unless its a scary cult or something lol).Thank you for all of the input, everyone!

I adopted through foster care. J's BM is a fervent Christian (well, aside from the addiction and other issues) She attempted to use my religion (and my sexuality) against me She failed. Foster care is not like infant adoption. If you lose your right to parent you lose the right to decide how your child will be parented. good luck