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I recently made contact with bdaughter-bd. This contact was made thru her mom by my fiance. My fiance knew how much I longed to see and hear how she was, I wasn't happy with the choice, but at the time it was the best thing for everyone. Bd is 19, and was adopted into an older family that her bmom knew. She is very happy. She has been a bit spoiled and has never been without.
Our first meeting was at her grandmas. The meeting included my fiance, her mom, her brother, and her grandma. We visited for 4 hours. We shared pics and stories. My fiance and I took her on a boat ride the next day. Two days later we had a dinner so she could meet my family, which also included her mom. At the dinner, she mentioned that her husband and her were seperated, and that she was looking for a younger man.
We have not met dad, and it seems there is no communication between her dad and her. Her mom calls alot, emails wanting me to give dad input on something she is doing. She leaves several messages if we cannot return her call immediately. She also wants us to come and stay at her home. The last time her mom called, she told my fiance that bd asked "mommy, dad hasn't called in awhile-I hope he still wants contact" and her reply was "daddy maybe busy right now" The thing is I had just called bd the night before.
My fiance was a bit set back on the whole conversation. We do want a relationship with bd. We just don't know how to handle mom. Any advice
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