Siblings Post-Adoption

I have been told that they are supposed to. That the adoptive family is considered like kinship if they are no longer licensed. I know that it doesn't always happen though. We expect my STBAS mom to have other children since he is one of 3 in 3.5 years. And I have made it very clear that we want to be called.

We were called about a little who had sibs that were being adopted. I know in that case they considered the Adoptive families, but they were maxed out. We wereasked to maintain contact if able. So I'm sure it doesn't always happen, but it definitely does happen and should.

And if it doesn't happen? Do you think you would push the issue?

My kids have an 11 yo sister that they have never met. They should have called us like they did with B and K, but they didn't. Would I have pushed it if I had known at the time? Probably. It is sad place in our hearts. I think for your kid's sake you should make your wishes known. At least, you will know that you tried.

Thanks for the been there/done that Becki. Everything's such a mess right now, trying to get answers and make heads or tails of everything. This has been completely out of left field for us.

In my experience, no, they do not notify you about siblings post-adoption. But they should!

Depends on the state, the county, the office, social worker and the situation at removal. Our son has a younger brother. Our state is required by law to seek siblings. When "P" went into foster care they didn't call. When I found out about it 4 months later and contacted DCF - the social worker and her supervisor were, at first, downright hostile to my request for visits. It took me six weeks to convince them to connect me with his foster mom so that we could arrange playdates. His foster mom (and I hope, soon to be adoptive mom) and I have since become good friends and get together with the boys when we can. But with my current FD, DCF is issuing all sorts of waivers (and ignoring many warning signs of disaster) in order to pass her grandparent's homestudy so that siblings can be placed together. No rhyme or reason. Good luck on your journey.