2nd Attempt Prayer Request

Prayers sent, how nerve racking, hopefully all goes well this time and you can enjoy getting to know the expectant mom.

Praying for your hearts to open without fear and that all goes well!!

I just saw your post and it brought back a ton of memories. I am anxious to hear how the meeting went. We did not go thru an agency, but still had a failed match in July 2010. In August, after much prayer with no answers, we took it upon ourselves to sell a business to finance adoption and select an agency. After talking with the agency and being mailed paperwork, we set out on our journey. One morning, before we wrote the check of signed anything, my hubby woke up and said, "this is not God's plan. He didn't lead us here" I was heartbroken. All of the promises of a baby by Christmas, etc. But I trusted and looked to my Lord and to my Husband. We gave it back to God. (keep in mind I was 39 and he was 46 at the time. (tick tock tick tock!) 6 short weeks later we got a call from a mutual friend of a friend who knew we wanted to adopt. She put us in touch with a young couple that wanted to place their baby. Long story short - we prayed and got our answer. 4 weeks after the initial phone call, I was in the delivery room welcoming our son into this world. He is a gift from God. I feel like if I had ignored God and gone with the agency, I would have missed the greatest blessing of my life. Sure, I might have been matched with another baby, and I would have been happy, but my son is amazing and totally worth the wait. He was chosen for us and as crazy as it seems, I almost feel that he was ours since conception. I tell you my story because I want to remind you not to give up on God. So many times we give God our problems or prayers and then 15 minutes later, we take them back saying, "I've got this, God. I know a better way." My Zander is 15 months old and I LOVE being an "old mom" as my friends call me! I'm more patient, happier and appreciate him even more. God also reminded me of His love for me. It was hard. But the rewards so outweigh the pain. I will be prying for you and your family. Please keep me posted!!!

TxSW07, so many of us have been praying for you. Can you send us an update on how you are doing?

Baby was born the last week of December, but we are unable to take placement until the end of January. As we wait out the registry we are plaqued with a whole new set of fears. Our CW tells us that BM's CW is always saying how confident and unwavering BM is, so I guess that's good news. I just wish baby was with us already. We've picked out a baby name, but I can't bring myself to call her by it. :-/ Thanks for the prayers. We'd really appreciate them to continue. I don't even know how to pray for this. Thankful that the Holy Spirit intercedes when we can't find the words.

I have never posted on (or even visited) one of these forums before, but my husband and I have just returned from one of the most painful experiences of our lives. Like TxSW07, we previously had a failed adoption when the birthmom changed her mind after delivery (June 2011) and when we were rematched in October we were VERY wary of becoming attached and getting too hopeful, etc. but as you know, it's hard to NOT be excited. It's a baby! A chance for a dream to come true...the best dream. Anyway, we flew to Amarillo 2 days ago to be part of a scheduled C-section. We were so excited and grateful that she wanted me to be in the room with her! When we arrived at the hospital, we were told there were no C-sections planned that day, and after several hours and many attorney phone calls, it was determined that she had delivered 5 days ago, denied knowledge of the adoption plan, discharged herself the day before we arrived, and never stopped us from flying to TX with hopes, dreams and suitcases full of baby needs. Why? Why be so cruel about it? The very least you could do is alert someone...anyone (the case manager, TX attorney, SC attorney, etc) that you changed your mind. Financially, we are ruined, but the extra travel expenses (almost 2000$) and the anxiety and pain at the hospital added insult to serious injury. Right now, I am having a very hard time believing in anything let alone thinking about trusting another birthmother. But how can I not? I have to play this, their game, or no baby. It's all or nothing. We have no real rights and there is no recourse in a bad outcome. I see no other options. All I know is that I hope and pray this process has not been as devastating and soul-crushing for others as it has been for us. It is actually changing my world view...are there any good people left out there? Hello?

Mac613, my heart hurts for you! A failed match is devastating, but it sounds like the events of the past few days have been nothing short of tragic. I feel compelled to tell you that after a failed match our agency does not require any additional adoption fees and you go right back on the waiting list. While emotionally devastated, financially we were able to get right back in place in line at our agency. I will lift you up in prayer today. I hope you find some moments of peace when the darkness feels overwhelming.

So far this match is still moving right along. Placement should occur in a couple of weeks. BMom doesn't seem to be wavering in her resolve. Starting let ourselves get a little excited and a little more hopeful. Thanks for your continued prayers. I want this match to be "the one"!

GOOD LUCK...our thoughts and prayers are with you!