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Hello, I am new here. I have been a Bmom in an open adoption for 11 years now and it has always been up and down as far as "open" goes. The Aparents also adopted another child when my "BC" was 18mo. He was also 18mo. Old Only it was a totally closed adoption where the child was taken from his parents. We agreed to phone calls when my "BC" was old enough to understand starting around 8 years old and all was going well until the Amom stopped it due to he other. Child being jealous that he couldn't talk to his parents. I was very understanding. We had been talking every Sunday and I agreed to just call 2 times a month. Then the Amom said even less. So I stopped calling to once Month. And emailing her a couple times. Something happened and they changed their number and I never got the new one and I have been emailing to tell them to send me their number and no one replies. I think the Amom is keeping me away because she is jealous now. I know she reads the emails I send to my BC. I really want to be in contact and to meet her in person. I feel this is a breach to our agreement! Is there anything I can do legally to restore contact? We did a legal open adoption and I have been way more than understanding. Please help. Thank you
rainbo1030
Hello, I am new here. I have been a Bmom in an open adoption for 11 years now and it has always been up and down as far as "open" goes. The Aparents also adopted another child when my "BC" was 18mo. He was also 18mo. Old Only it was a totally closed adoption where the child was taken from his parents. We agreed to phone calls when my "BC" was old enough to understand starting around 8 years old and all was going well until the Amom stopped it due to he other. Child being jealous that he couldn't talk to his parents. I was very understanding. We had been talking every Sunday and I agreed to just call 2 times a month. Then the Amom said even less. So I stopped calling to once Month. And emailing her a couple times. Something happened and they changed their number and I never got the new one and I have been emailing to tell them to send me their number and no one replies. I think the Amom is keeping me away because she is jealous now. I know she reads the emails I send to my BC. I really want to be in contact and to meet her in person. I feel this is a breach to our agreement! Is there anything I can do legally to restore contact? We did a legal open adoption and I have been way more than understanding. Please help. Thank you
I'm afraid you probably don't have any legal options open, rainbo. In some states OA agreements are supposedly "legally binding" but even that varies.
Read the following thread and follow the links to find out what the laws are in your state.
[URL="http://forums.adoption.com/general-adoption-issues/397060-legally-binding-oa-agreements-states-details.html"]http://forums.adoption.com/general-adoption-issues/397060-legally-binding-oa-agreements-states-details.html[/URL]
Best of luck to you. I can't imagine the agony you're in, and for such a ridiculous excuse.
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Thank you for the link I will look at it and post what I find. It's really hurting me that these people I trusted have turned on me like this. It's also hurting my other children who were just getting to talk to her too.
Thanks so much,
Dawn