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Hard to believe it's been 5 years this past Saturday since I found the child I placed for adoption had died at 26 years of age. I got some sad news yesterday. My son's birth father died Saturday. His brother said he never got over the news of our son's death and spiraled downward into alcohol and drugs. His family all turned their backs on him. Here's the shocking part. The family will have no memorial, no recognition whatsover. My son's father has been cremated, and no family member wants to claim the ashes.
I called the coroner in Florida today, they will send me the ashes for the $600 cremation fee. I was thinking perhaps I could have a small memorial service here in TN and release his cremains over his son's grave.
All I can think of is at least father and son are now together and I am grateful for that. Finally they will meet.
Do you guys think it's inappropriate or crazy for me to have his cremains sent?
Thanks,
Kim:wings:
Father & Son. Together forever. RIP
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(((((Kim)))))
I am so very sorry to hear that your son's birth father passed away. I'm sure you're remembering the good times, as well as the bad times. I had such a hard time when my son's natural father lost his life in a work-related accident. It was very difficult for quite a while afterwards. Going back over all the memories and feelings...whew, that's a huge undertaking.
Kim, I think you should claim his ashes and honor both your son and his father. You're right, you know...they ARE together now. I always like that saying in the Bible about how we see through a glass darkly now, but one day face to face. That verse gives me a lot of comfort.
The love you once had for this man needs to be honored and respected. Embrace the positive...remember the good...and gently let go of the rest. Remember him with love in your heart and peace in your soul... :loveyou:
To me it seems a very kind and generous thing for you to do, to have the ashes sent to you and sprinkled over your shared son's grave. Doesn't seem crazy at all. Grief impacts some people very deeply, so sorry to hear that your son's father didn't figure out a way to recover from it. My condolences to you on both losses.
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