has anyone else been adopted because of abuse

my situation is different. I was sold into adoption at 5 months through the black market. So I was an outsider from the start. I have scars from what must have happened during that 5 months before the adoption.The actual abuse began at age 3 when my a-dad became a single parent to a child he didn't want and there was abandonment.When I was 5 my 2nd stepmother began every form of abuse. What she could not do she left for others.This continued until I was 18 when I left home.To cope with those kinds of things you describe, somehow you have to find the strength to face the demons. Some people write poetry, others write their story and how they felt as all the abuse took place.In writing your story, there is no right or wrong. There is no critiquing. The story should not be shared until you are ready. It is your story.There will be buckets of tears and it will take some time to write what you remember. Once you have finished it 2 things will have happened. You will have the strength to fight off the triggers and the demons will be less, the other thing is that there will have been healing.It wont end the grief and loss that is attached to adoption, that is a life long sentence. But it will provide the strength to give you more freedom in your thots and less attachment to the dark side of the abuse.I wish you the best.

Hi Chris, I hope you get some responses...if not maybe you could try [url=http://www.fosterclub.com]The National Network for Young People in Foster Care! | FosterClub[/url]. There is a whole section where young adults that have been adopted from care or aged out of care post. There may also be opportunities to find support from a local foster/adopt agency. I don't know that the big counties could help, but smaller agencies may have support groups or at least know adults adopted from similiar situations.

Chris, my daughter was a little younger than you when she was removed due to abuse/neglect. Healing is a process. SHe is doing well now. I know that as time goes, she will always have to remember that nothing was her fault. The adults in her life made bad choices and it was about them, not her. It had nothing to do with "not loving her enough". I know that there are issues that she will face for the rest of her life. It isn't a death sentence, but one that she must have the tools to use to deal with the issues.We worked on attachment HARD. It has helped and again, is a lifelong process. Drywall, I'm sorry to hear your story. You give great advice.

At 50 and still trying to cope with it. As a new born, my mother was caught by the matron, putting a pillow over my head. To this day, my birth mother, still claims she was doing the right thing. She believes only the strong, should survive and as I was born defective (heart condition) I should of died. Then believes the money saved should be spent on the elderly. Her 'only the strong survive and nature deciding' seem to go out of the window. An elderly aunt tried to care for me, but she had several heart attacks. So at 9 months, got sent to the orphanage. At 6 had open heart operation and sent to recoup at birth mothers cousins. They started beating me. Lied to a judge/court, after being turned down at least once, was able to adopt me. Then the abuse really stepped up. Met my birth mother at 19 after she found me. First meeting she told me, about her murder attempt and reveled in it. Didn't matter, her cousin had done worse and made other murder attempts, got closer to succeding than birth mother. How do you cope? I enjoy the good times, surround myself with good people and have no time for liars or people who harm others. Do what I have to do, to protect myself, even if others don't understand or disaprove. Love my kids (now grown) and husband. Except there are bad days, kick myself in the butt if I need too or have a quick wallow if that's what is needed. I'm damaged, no pretending otherwise. So just one foot in front of the other.