Issues with mums

I love my Amom very much and would have loved my Bmom if she would have let me. Adopted females tend to have less female friends and more "boyfriends" they are very catty and have a hard time making female friends. It has to do with self esteem issues related to adoption. They feel less than others and have rejection issues.

I have 3 ''mums'' and can't stand any of them :( My Bmum relationship is based on her pretending everything is fine and the adoption never really happened , my adoptive mum was abusive when I was a child and is just scary to be around and my step mum is pure evil. As the pp said I have lots of problems trusting females , they tend to make me very nervous .I have very few female friends .

I used to have big troubles trusting my mothers and females in general. I think the first step is recognizing that. I was always a daddy's girl, always had male friends, it's easier usually to keep a distance with men. I spent some time with it, admitted to myself, or recognized, that I had anger towards my mothers and that it spilled over into girl land for me. I was mad at the "mom". Had good reasons to be mad at the collective mother. I couldn't let them in. Had no patience and didn't try to understand where they were coming from or what was up with them. Why they were like they were and why they bugged me so much. I had tough skin, couldn't tolerate what I saw as weakness. I spent years studying women in general, social stuff, history stuff, nature, how lives, choices, cultures, situations, etc. can be different for each of us. And I spent quite a long time after that learning to ease my anger towards men and be able to trust the ones I love more.:rolleyes: Motherhood was difficult for me for a while until I understood it all more. I see some of it in my daughter at times, female friends, and women here (adoptees, amoms, bmoms)often too, and men. I rarely know what to say, or how to say it or explain it correctly without ticking people off. I've wanted to say more here sometimes... Unless it's my daughter of course, it's ok if she gets aggravated with what I say, she usually thinks about it, or at least puts it in her shoebox for later just in case - because she trusts me, knows me. Trusted me enough to invite me (make me go) to her bachelorette party last week. :woohoo: Now sometimes I think I am too understanding and forgiving with my fellow females, nah, no such thing.

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