Adoptee questions for prospective adoptive parents

Hi all. :o My husband and I are in the process of adopting an eight and fourteen year old boy who are biological brothers. I was hoping that some of you might be able to help us out with questions that they might have for us, but are too shy to ask at this point. Especially for the fourteen year old- he's a typical boy, but he is also described as being rather "flat," if you know what that means. He is very much like my husband, it's hard to tell what is going on inside his head! They younger boy is very outgoing and easily adaptable, but the older boy was the parent for many years and I think he is going to have questions that he may not ask. All that said, would you mind sharing with me questions that you would ask going into an adoption as an older child? I'm hoping we can use them to play a game of sorts, so that they can be answered and open the door for more questions to come out. I want to make this transition as smooth as I can, even though I know it will disrupt both parties' lives. I was thinking about questions like: How old were you when you got married? What do you think about sports? Video games? Dating? Anything, really. I've been thinking of it for awhile and thought it would be easier for people who have been through it to think of important questions! Thanks to all who can help! :thanks: