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Hello from a shiny newbie!
My husband of 8 years and I are tired of infertility treatments. We're tired of not being parents. We're ready to move on to a more certain outcome, so we're ready to adopt.
I've emails tons of agencies. Done a thousand web searches. Made phone calls, asked friends, asked acquaintances for recommendations, ideas, feedback. So far, we've gotten a lot of confusing and not-very-useful information.
SO, I'm hoping that there is some kind soul in these forums that can lend us a hand. Here's a bit about us:
I'm 28, my husband is 40. We've been married nearly 9 years. We live in NC, and would like to pursue domestic infant adoption. We want the most ethical, most affordable, and fastest agency we can find. (Doesn't everyone??) While we are open to different ethnicities, we are worried that living in the VERY rural and somewhat backward at times deep South, would make it difficult if we were to get an AA child. My husband is Christian, and I am Pagan. We'll be raising the child in church, but with an open mind towards all religions.
Does anyone know of any agencies that might fit for us? Right now we're leaning toward Independent Adoption Center, but we've made no decisions. Any help, information, cuddles, conversation will be awarded with cookies and gold stars!!
Thanks :)
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Hi JulyFly, my hubby and and I also live in NC. We have decided to use IAC's Raleigh office for many reasons. We live in a rural area too just minutes from the city. It is so hard choosing whether to use a agency, facilitator, or attorney. Ive read so much online about adoption to include the types of adoption. Im ready to be a mommy too. Go with your gut and heart and ask alot of questions. We sign up next month. I have been in constant contact with IAC over the last several months and they always answer our questions. We are excited about our journey. Good luck to you!
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Hi Siren!So cool to find another Tarheel! I spoke with one of IAC's current clients on the phone last night, and she was able to answer a lot of my questions. I really think we're going to end up going with them too. I've been really encouraged by what I heard. While not perfect (nobody is!!) they seem to genuinely care. We have our information session next Friday. We probably won't sign until the end of summer, when my injectible cycles are over (hurray me.) I'm excited and ready to move on with this!It's so cool that we might be agency-mates! Please keep me posted on your journey, and let me know if you need a friend!:)
We attended the information session Nov 2011 but didnt have the money to sign up right away. We have been saving money since the session and while we dont havve all the money we feel comfortable starting. Thank God they have a payment plan. We sign up July 27-28 for the weekend intensive. JulyFly, you are so right nobody or nothing is perfect. Of course, we can be friends and we can share our journeys to motherhood. My email address is rlmveazy@gmail.com let me know how it goes next Friday.Houston this forum has been a great source of comfort, knowledge, friendship, and SUPPORT. I will continue to use it throughout our journey and beyond so that I can help others on their journey.
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Thanks for the warm welcome! I'll definitely keep you posted on how the information session goes. Husband wants to try the injectable meds that the doctor had prescribed (of course, he's not the one jabbing himself with needles!) so we probably won't sign the contract until September or so. :(I have zero faith that these treatments will work (nothing else has) so I'm just ready to move on to adoption. Gah. Is that normal?
July, I despise needles and you thinking that it won't work might be you coming to terms that adoption is your chosen path to motherhood. I am 38 although nobody believes me lol. I've never been pregnant due to PCOS and blocked tubes. I so wanted to be a mother. Here I am with the American dream, house, great husband, career, college degrees, cars and no children to share it with. Well one day last September I was thinking hard about having a baby and as I was going to sleep the word adoption entered into my heart and I couldn't go to sleep. Im spiritual so I know that was God speaking to me. So needless to say from 12am to almost 3am I was up on my laptop reading about adoption and looking up agencies. I said all of that to say this I am at peace that I will never be pregnant and give birth. I want to be a mommy to a baby that needs me just as much as i need them. And July you might be arriving at that peace too. We did see a fertility specialist and was told IVF was our best chance. The fees were super expensive, the chances at a successful pregnancy and actual birth were super low. It just didnt balance out for us. Plus did i mention i dont like needes lol. Sorry if I rambled. No matter your path I wish you luck!!!!
My husband and I are seeking to adopt as well.
We are going thru the state of Florida and Florida baptist children's home. Have been getting all of our paperwork and home study done for the past six months. It's a LONG and SLOW process! Which I do find hard to understand. There are so many children that need a loving home and there are so many of us that's want children (especially after going thru years of infertility)... But I guess that's another thread, right? ;)
Good luck t you!
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