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Good afternoon,
My husband and I are trying to independently adopt. We talked with many (10+) agencies, but kept feeling like it was more about the business and the profit than about looking out for the expectant mother or the potential adoptive family (or the baby for that matter). We just could not get beyond a sense that something was not right.
So now, we are going to use a very well-respected, ethical adoption attorney for legal purposes, but are on our own for making connections with women considering placing their baby for adoption.
My question is- For those who have placed their baby via independent adoption, how did you meet the adoptive parents? Did you contact them first? If so, how did you find out about them? Or did they contact you?
So far, we have emailed everyone we know, made a Facebook page about hoping to start our family, shared information via little cards with our information and picture on them, made a YouTube video, and a blog. But if there are other ideas I am not thinking of, please share. I've heard of using classified ads, but that just sounds wrong, 'advertising' for a baby.
Thanks in advance for any help you can provide!
Jenny
I did a private adoption. I contacted the adoptive parents and I got their phone number from <of all places> one of my parented daughters best friends. Her mom worked with littlemans a-mom and she knew that they had adopted a little girl six years ago and would like to adopt one more. They had been through at least one failed match and I think a-mom talked about it at work some. I definitely like the facebook idea, because I found a family on there that I probably would have picked if I had found them sooner. Write about who you and your husband are, what you enjoy, what you hope to do with the child, etc. The page that I found kinda invited you into their journey, and invited you to get to know them. I really liked that. Good luck! I hope that you find your e-mom, she is out there! :-)
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I know once you have a completed home study there are sites that allow you to create a profile that EMOMs can browse through - that is how we found our AP's - I loved it because there was no 3rd party pressure. We tried agencies too and that not right feeling was what I ended up with - everyone wanted to hang on my every word and wouldnt even listen to my DH, J's father (I was amazed like ok dont you think it would be slightly important that HE feels comfortable too?!!) also I know it seems to be easier to foster to adopt or taking older children or siblings... GOOD LUCK