How do I tell my Adoptive parents?

I am sorry nobody has answered your post yet. You might want to post in adoptee support because it gets more traffic. I have 2 thoughts. First, you can explain that you really are curious about your roots and yuor genetic history. There are also many, many articles explaining why needing this information is about forming a complete identity and not about finding new parents. Secondly, if you try your best to explain and are kind but your parents still are not supportive, there is not much you can do. You can't control their emotions any more than they can control yours. You have a right to look and you don't need to feel guilty, no matter how they react. I am an adoptive mom with a 5 year old. Our adoption has been open form the beginning. I am thankful that adoptive parents today are taught from the beginning that their children have the right to their own history and it has nothing to do with us. Good luck!

I had a similar experience just recently. I found both my bio parents, and wanted to tell my aparents that I had initiated contact. I felt my timing might be bad.since my family has also had a rough year. I went over to their house when I knew they were both home and not busy and said I had something to tell them. Of course, their first question was if I was pregnant... I told them straight out that i'd made contact, but that I loved them and was not at all trying to replace them. Honestly, I think they were kind of amused at my nervousness. My mom asked lots of questions and my dad didn't say much, but both were supportive. I think being honest early on is better than keeping secrets regardless of how your family will react. Good luck! :)

I wouldn't tell them yet. You might never find the bio "parents," or the bios might not be interested, or might not be available, or might be downright mean. Not that I think someone should always hide it from their parents, but I think telling your parents about wanting to search for bios might not do much good and might seem harsh. I just think... why risk hurting your parents when the bios might be not be interested and might not be found? I suppose if you tell them, you could tell them you're curious about medical history and what they look like. If your family hadn't had a rough time lately and you are very close, my response would be different. But, otherwise, I don't see the need to tell your parents before there's some on-going relationship with bios.

I would say it would depend on who your parents are normally. If they are self confident and supportive of you, then they would want you to talk with them about it. If they are needy, possessive and the adoption was all about them (meeting their needs to be parents) then I might wait until I had news.Speaking for myself, I would want to know so I could be that cushion for my child while they went on the roller coaster ride of emotions that may occur. Whether he/she found acceptance or rejection, I would want to be there to rejoice or offer comfort.I wish you luck. I have adopted my two great nieces and we've had an open relationship that has provided moments of healing and times of hurt (my girls are just reaching the teen age years). My two brothers are adopted...one has never shown interest and the oldest has mentioned from time to time his interest in looking.I will pray that yours is a positive experience for all involved.