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My husband and I are at the end of our fertility road so we are starting to research adoption. We have found a TON of agencies and facilitators eager to help us. How do you choose one? I can't seem to find honest reviews on any of them. :grr:We are looking for domestic infant adoption. We have requested information from Adoption Network Law Center, AdoptHelp, Lifetime Adoption Center. Does anyone have good or bad experiences with this? Are there any agencies or facilitators you think we should consider?Thank you!! :)OH, Last question- why does everyone private message on this forum about agencies and facilitators?
Last update on May 5, 7:41 am by Sachin Gupta.
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Hi,I can forward you information others shared with me on ANLC.Also, you have to PM on these boards regarding agencies, facilitators and lawyers. There are strict rules about posting your opinions, good or bad, and if you do, they will most likely be removed.This can be a difficult process to navigate on so many levels but these boards are a great place to find support and advice.Liz
Hi. My husband and I have decided to pursue adoption as well, and figuring out which agency to go with is tough. I was hoping to get some inside recommendations and opinions to help us figure it out. Can we get the info you received? it would be much appreciated.
Also, does anyone have insight as to whether larger, national organizations or smaller, local agencies offer better results?
Thanks!
My husband and I are in the same boat as you are. It can be very frustrating! We are getting closer to narrowing down our options and making a decision. I have done a LOT of research and have gotten some info regarding ANLC and Lifetime so PM me if you want to know what I have found so far. We are now deciding between domestic infant adoption with IAC and a dual track of local foster-to-adopt & infant adoption program here in Houston. I'll be happy to share any way I can! Best of luck!
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My husband and I are just beginning the journey to adoption. My parents adopted me at birth through a private adoption that was facilitated by our family doctor. Seems as though things have changed in the last forty years. Can anyone tell me the primary benefits of using and agency as opposed to adopting through the foster care system? Also, as the people who have posted before me, which agencies would be recommended?
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OP, How do you choose? You do just what you are doing now, you ask questions.
You talk to people that have adopted with an agency, get the list of references from each agency, call or e-mail,or meet with those people. (When we were on a reference list we had 2 different couples come to our house for supper. They were then able to meet our baby/babies and see what a life could be like after adoption).
If an agency gives you 20 references don't be afraid to call all of them. (When people put themselves on the refernce list, they enjoy talking about their journey to parenthood).
Ask WHEN those people adopted, you want current info.
Find out why those people chose a particular agency?
Ask them if the agency was always truthful and upfront with them?
Talk and ask questions of the people that work within the agency? You will get a feel if they are someone with whom you would be willing to work.
If you get two or three agencies you cannot decide which way to go, follow your instincts. Adopting is not for the meek, but it is the most wonderfully fulfilling decision you can make.
We adopted internationally but the basic starting point is the same. You already know you want domestic adoption, so you have already eliminated several agencies, just by making that decision!
Write your questions and answers down, then you can compare more easily, don't try to depend on memory. It may be a small thing that makes you decide on one agency over another.
Best of Luck