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Hi, after too many years infertility treatments my dh and I are gladly hoping to adopt. I've read so many books and chat boards, but the truth is I have no idea where to start. I feel that I've already dealt with so much
heartache and pain. I'm terrified that I'll make all the wrong choices in this process, so I'm not doing anything.
For example:
Is a local agency better or worse than a national agency? I'm scared that no bm would ever choose us over a younger, richer, better looking couple. Any
advice you have would be greatly appreciated.
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I'm not sure that I will be any help to you, but my husband and I are just starting out too. Our originally situation was a private friend of the family kinda thing... mom chose to parent. Now we're going the agency route. We're just now getting started with them.
One of our fears too, is that a birth mother would choose someone else over us, as we're not "well off" we don't travel the world, we're just "good, down home people".
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DH was 39 and I was 42 when Peanut was born. We're not rich. You never know what an expectant mom is looking for, so don't count yourselves out...one emom chose us over several other families because we told her we planned to send our kids to public school...that was important to her...she ended up parenting, but that's not really the point. :) Peanut's mom liked that we lived nearby so visits would be possible. She also liked that we supported the same college football team. I think there were some other things she liked, but these were two she mentioned. She said her biggest goal was to make sure Peanut had a dad who thought he was the center of the universe-well, she definitely got that goal met! DH is in love with our little boy! You just never know what makes you stick out...Good luck to you!