Proximity treatment for RAD.

How do you know, she has Rads? It sound like she had other issues too. No, she shouldn't be around kids at all, if she's going to try to role them down the steps. If I was you, I wouldn't allow her around your kids, at all. Is she seeing a therapist, she should be. I'm not getting the treatment for Rads, your talking about, but I wouldn't let her out of my sight, because of what she did to the baby, I'm not sure why she wasn't taken to the er, for a mental exzam. You might want to look for a therapist that specializes in Rads, before you do your own therapy, by your self.

Hi, thanks for your reply. Yes, we know she has RAD. We adopted her when she was 18 months old and she was diagnosed at 3 years. My parents are working with CAMHs, social services and a child psychologist to help my sister with her problems but they're not much help. Mostly they say there's no help for my sister and the best my parents can do is learn to deal with her, not try to improve her because that is impossible. We live in the UK (NHS are useless and very little help with mental problems) the treatment I was reading about is popular in America where mental illness seems to be taken more seriously. Just to add, with regard to the safety of my own children: She was never intentionally left alone with the children. When she tried to hurt my son we had no idea what she was capable of (until that point the worst she'd done was hurting animals). The day she hurt my son he was safely in his cot in his bedroom and she was downstairs, sleeping on the sofa. It was early morning, she'd snuck out of bed. Thankfully my son screamed when she placed him at the top of the stairs and my husband heard and went running out to see what was up, catching him before he went down the stairs. We can't be expected to watch her 24/7, however she is no longer welcome in my home without my parents keeping a very close eye on her (she's not allowed to leave their side) as I don't want my children to be put in harms way.

I am not sure what treatment you are talking about but lots of different experts recommend line of sight supervision for children with RAD just to keep everyone safe. There is also something called time in that we use. Instead of time out the child must stay with mom (or dad or whoever) constantly. Here are some websites that might help. [url=http://www.attach.org/]ATTACh.org[/url][url=http://www.attachmenttraumanetwork.com/index.html]Welcome to Attachment & Trauma Network, Inc.- Crisis Line 1-888-656-9806[/url][url=http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/reactive-attachment-disorder/DS00988/]Reactive attachment disorder - MayoClinic.com[/url]

Thanks very much. :) I'll pass those sites onto my Mum.

I wasn't blaming you, I'm not sure if she did that because of Rads or other issues. I hope those links,that momraine gave you help. I hope you can find a better therapist, not all them are trained in Rads.

Thanks. I have been wondering myself if there are any other issues; she certainly seems to be displaying a lot of signs of psychopathy but that's such a difficult label to attach to such a young child.

I believe another name for it is "time-in". This will seem unrelated, but start with this article:[url=http://www.deborahhage.com/articles/lying.html]Lying and Teaching the Truth - Deborah Hage, MSW[/url]The books:[url=http://www.amazon.com/Dont-Touch-My-Heart-Unattached/dp/0891098208]Amazon.com: Don't Touch My Heart: Healing the Pain of an Unattached Child (9780891098201): Lynda Gianforte Mansfield, Christopher H. Waldmann: Books[/url]Anything by Daniel A. Hughes (therapist for intensely damaged children)Anything by Peter A. Levine (explains trauma in human beings, how it works, how it can be healed) but don't skip reading him! Books of Kate Cairns, esp. "Attachment, Trauma and Resilience", she's from the UK, brilliant, experienced.Site/Training:Heart of the Matter has classes/seminars, simply amazing. They very simply and effectively explain "time in" as helping to heal children. "Because They Waited" course used to be on DVD, I have it, it's amazing.Best of success to you all.

Thanks very much! :)

You're most welcome! If you check into what Kate Cairns is doing now, it looks very fabulous. Her site has quite a list of people who're available to help work with families parenting intensely damaged children. My personal opinion, is that for the best chance of success, parents of traumatized children need a coach/support system, a highly trained therapist or similar. [url=http://www.katecairns.com/]Kate Cairns Associates: Knowledge that changes lives[/url]